what do i do

[scouseprincess]

i've been in a relationship with my boyfreind for 6 months now and things are getting serious but on saturday night i went out with my single freind and so we got really really drunk and she decided she wanted go an find a man so how convenient we bumped into my cousin and his freind.
my freind who i was out with used to be with my cousin and my cousins freind woz my f u c k buddy so to speak last year so anyway as the night went on she was gettin along just fine with my cousin and i was having a chat with mike his freind so to speak we ended up kissing and before i knew it i was in his house with him having an just like old times it was good very good but the next day i felt the way i used to feel by him and that was used and abused i no its stupid if i used to feel used then why did i do it but its like a rush.
needless to say i havent told my boyfreind and this is the first time i have cheated on him but i really feel sick to my stomach everytime i thnk of wot i have done how do i stop feeling so guilty.its easy to say men cheat anyway but i really dont think he has ever cheated on me i just feel like a such a slut.

[eightball61]

You wont stop feeling guilty until you tell him. I am sure you'd want him to tell you if you did the same thing. This guilt will get worser as times comes and may cause you to be distant. He doesn't deserve any of this. You know what you did was wrong and now you have to face what ever happens. It was clearly a mistake and a lessoned learned. Thats how we deal with life..

[scouseprincess]

i really just cant face losing him i mean whats running through my head is what if i tell him and he forgives me but then he doesnt trust me and goes out and cheats i no if i told him it would break his ehart but if he did it to me it would break my heart i no its seems selfish but its true i am so confused

[eightball61]

You will have to face something but your choice on what it will be......Guilt? or challenge of working out the relationship?

[Rich]

There's some bigger issues that you need to look at and resolve.

Why did you have with that other guy? It "didn't just happen". It happened for a reason. What was that reason?

Were you too drunk to know better? Do you just like having ? Is not good with your BF? Does your heart already know that your relationship with your BF won't turn into a marriage? Are you not looking to get married yet and just want to have fun?

You need to look at why you did what you did. And the truth is, if you're very HONEST with yourself and the answer that comes from within you, then you'll have the course of action that you need to take.

How would you feel if your BF did what you did? Just remember, that honesty is the best policy.

IMO, if you're not going to be with your BF very long, don't even bring it up. But if you plan on being with him long term, like getting engaged and such, then you need to tell him and let the chips drop where they may.

Rich

[lostlilstar]

Honestly, coming from someone who has been cheated on. I think that you should tell him and get your guilt out of the way, and before things turn serious. Maybe right now you arent serious but the longer you stick with him, the more guilty you'll feel, and if he finds out the worse the outcome. Better from your mouth than anyone elses. Plus, after cheating ANYONE and EVERYONE acts different, and Im sure he is suspecting something right now.