With A Friend

[Mikey721]

I have been good friends with this girl for about 8 years now. We always had a thing for each other but nothing ever progressed because the timing was always off. Either she had a boyfriend or I had a girlfriend, well you know how it is. So along the way we just became to close of friends to start a relationship. However over the weekend we got kind of drunk (we were both still fully aware of whats going on) and had . The next morning I feared that it would be awkward but it wasn't ( well for me at least) and I assumed it wasn't for her as well because we did it a second time. We were planning to do it a third time, her idea, but I had to go to work. So that day I didn't get a chance to talk to her because I was swamped at work but I did call her the following day. She however didn't answer but did text me that she was real busy. So I text her back asking her are we ok and she responded yes why wouldn't we be? But now she is avoiding me, she wont answer any of my calls or respond to any of my texts. What gives??? Anyone ever been in this situation?? I am going nuts worrying our friendship is over.......

[zanshin2005]

Yup.. I did this once. Like you, at first it seemed ok. I am willing to bet that it did weird her out on some level, it just might not have kicked in untill later.

In my situation, it weirded her out for like 5 months! It was just two close friends that took things a littttllleee too far. Damn alcohol I tell ya.

Anyways, I hope she comes around before 5 months, but give her space to deal with it. It might not have been a big deal to you, but it might be to her. Her feelings towards you might a little confused. When she does come around, don't pretend that nothing happened, talk about it and resolve it in some way that you can both agree on.

If you want to keep this friendship going, do not have again with her unless you plan to take it to a different level.

[smackie9]

Sorry dude....but does change everything. It's the most intimate thing you can do with someone. I think she's regretting it. It was a bad choice after she had time to think about it. Are you hoping for a bf gf relationship? Or just a friendship back to the way it was. Either way it just may end things between you. If you have a chance to talk about it to her well then good. But don't be expecting her to be calling you anytime soon. I would just give her the space she wants.

[Randall]

I agree. Unless you both can separate from love, it does change everything... Did you mention if you were both "single" when this happened? I wasn't quite clear on this except you didn't do it in the past due to other boygirlfriends...

I'd give it time too. Perhaps you were always friends because you liked each other under it all. I feel some people keep the opposite as friends because they're secretly attracted to them. Perhaps, this was you. And now, you've sealed the deal. Good luck as you move forward. Not sure it will every be the same.. but you can rest assured that it will either end your friendship, make it akward or you'll hook-up.

[Howard]

How's everything Mikey?