CuriousYouth21
02-10-2007, 07:56 PM
How can you have love ... without connection? I've been wondering this for the past month or so. I've accused my fiance of entertaining thoughts about maybe cheating on me, thinking about her Ex's on more personal grounds, and going to see them for then less cordial conversation. Were it not for all the evidence to the contrary. I know the family and there VERY loyal. I know my fiance and she's swore to me through Tears as long as she has my ring on her finger she would never hurt me. However, ever since the 3rd week of our relationship began she's told me she's had difficulty "feeling me". I'm the person she loves and I'm the the one to her. In all of her previous relationships she's had 1 straight for she went over there once a week stripped and got ed (was going through that young adult stage though). she's had 2 serious relationships and about 33 other relationships. Then I come along and start dating her for 3 months after which I fall in love and propose to her. She's claimed that the connection she had with them is lacking in our relationship. ually I think of it as you know a connection with your partner but when she tells me that she has to turn herself on when I'm trying to I'd think somethings wrong. She loves me but the body sure as hell aint responding in other words. she's turned off the whole damn thing and i'm thinking if I dont try "what then" you know? she'll forget me and go look for it elsewhere. Thats what keeps me trying to turn her on so much. She's always gone to it when she's wanted it. she went to that guy once a week when she wanted it so I'm thinking maybe I should let her come to me and stop trying so damn hard, but what of the latter problem and she looks for it else where. she not used to actually being wanted. Aside from the fact i'm 4 and 12 years younger then her and she's always dated guys that are older and I'm the first young guy she's had a relationship with or even been with a committed one. The Fire connection that should be in our relationship is extinguished or never existed. We've talked about it and she's come up with excuse after excuse. It's the environement, its the stress, I just dont want it. I need some serious advice guys and I need it quickly cause I'm starting to worry. What should I do? :confused: ( Hoping for alot of input)