I dont know what to do ....

[froggie1103]

Well heres a problem and im not sure what to do or think so alittle advice would help.. well hes been very moody lately and today it just blew up, well frist think this morning when we woke up he was complaining bc i didnt wake him up on time and our whole day is messed up, then we leave and go back to his house and he complaining about his family and we go to vist his grandpa and on our way there some guy start talking smack to him and my boyfriend got out of the car and starting yelling back at him so we visit and come back out and someone almost hits us with there car so my bf goes around him really fast and pulls infront of him and stops and walks up to his windwo and starts yelling at the guy.... ok if thats not enough... he said something to me on the way home i dotn remember what and i told him i think he has an anger problem and i was telling him why i thought that and giving him examples and he snapped he was yelling i hate you ive never hated anyone so much your a B****... so when we got back to his house i got out and walked 4 miles home, well then later that same day me and his sister went out to the store and he callls and we went back to his house and hes like im so sorry im really stressed out ok.. fine... well then we started talkign again later and he was like freaking out again and hes like i dotn know what i want and your making me mad... so i started to cry and hes yelling get out get out i dont want you here your crying doesnt mean anything to me... and so after about 1 hr of him yelling at me to leave and get out of his space i left but now i dont know what to do o... i love him to death ... hes going through a lot of stress... child custody, surgery, lawsuit, work, grandpas sick... but its like if he leaves me its my whole world.. i dont talk to any of my friends anymore and we only hang out with his friends ... i love his family and daughter ... HELP!!!!!!

[eightball61]

Ofcourse you see his anger issue here. You listed off many things that are putting him through stress and this is not helping. What he needs is the proper space to figure things out. He needs to have the space to settle the lawsuit, surgrey, ect. He does however need someone like you to be there and talk to him and comfort him. You have needs also and if this anger is getting to you way to much then just back off. what you dont wanna do is add to the fire because it will just make it worse.You know he is going through a tough time and time, patients, and space maybe the best possible answer to this.

[Rich]

Can I ask....what are you bringing to the table in this relationship? If he's your whole world, then maybe your world is lacking other outlets.

If he's your whole world and he sees that, then you're just adding to his pressure. For some reason he's viewing you as a burden and that's why he's snapping on you.

If you were an equal to him in this relationship and someone that he could go to and talk about things, then maybe he wouldn't say what he says to you.

Nobody should be your whole world. You should have a world of your own and just wish to let someone else share it with you.

Ask yourself this. Are you someone that your BF can go to for solace, comfort, conversation, advice and as a sounding board, or are you just another emotional burden to him? Are you helping him or just adding to his burden. IMO it sounds like that if he's your whole world, then you're emotional neediness is just more pressure on him.

IMO, that's why he's probably snapping on you.

[inquisitive]

I think you need to step back and take a break. First of all he has no right to yell at you tell you he hates you, call you a etc. When he said sorry he obviously didn't mean it since he didn't change anything, he continued to yell and berate you.

Secondly, you need to have your own friends again. Your own interests. You guys need to at least give eachother some space. It is not a healthy relationship for anybody involved, you, him, his daughter, to have him screaming at you, and then you crying all the time. You deserve to be happier.