coach
06-14-2007, 06:46 AM
I am replying to you in a new thread because you have posted in someone else’s thread.
In my opinion there are some worrying issues referred to in your post, i.e. that you are afraid of your partner and that he is verbally abusive to you.
This is obviously bad for you and for the development of your child - a child that grows up in a home where one parent is abusive to the other is likely to suffer in the way they develop.
I think you need to get some outside help and support.
If you are fearful that he may harm you physically, then you need to take professional advice on your position. The best thing may be for you to leave the family home, or maybe he will leave.
It might be possible to get him some help to change his ways, and if you involve some professional support, such as a doctor or a social worker, etc, they might be able to persuade him to seek help.
A lot depends on the cause of his anger and aggressive ways. It could be due to mental health issues, or perhaps the stress of having to shoulder responsibility for the family. Sometimes stress is part of a depressive condition and excessive anger can surface and be taken out on people close to the sufferer. Lack of trust and unjustified suspicion can also be a symptom of mental health problems.
But whatever the cause, your first priority needs to be to keep yourself and your child safe.
Sorry I can't be of more help, but you need an assessment of why he is being the way he is, before trying to sort this out. So please seek some outside help, I feel sure that will be the best thing for everyone involved.
In my opinion there are some worrying issues referred to in your post, i.e. that you are afraid of your partner and that he is verbally abusive to you.
This is obviously bad for you and for the development of your child - a child that grows up in a home where one parent is abusive to the other is likely to suffer in the way they develop.
I think you need to get some outside help and support.
If you are fearful that he may harm you physically, then you need to take professional advice on your position. The best thing may be for you to leave the family home, or maybe he will leave.
It might be possible to get him some help to change his ways, and if you involve some professional support, such as a doctor or a social worker, etc, they might be able to persuade him to seek help.
A lot depends on the cause of his anger and aggressive ways. It could be due to mental health issues, or perhaps the stress of having to shoulder responsibility for the family. Sometimes stress is part of a depressive condition and excessive anger can surface and be taken out on people close to the sufferer. Lack of trust and unjustified suspicion can also be a symptom of mental health problems.
But whatever the cause, your first priority needs to be to keep yourself and your child safe.
Sorry I can't be of more help, but you need an assessment of why he is being the way he is, before trying to sort this out. So please seek some outside help, I feel sure that will be the best thing for everyone involved.