Between a rock & a hard place

[jscuster]

I'll try to make this short. I have been best friends with a girl for almost 15 years. We dated for about a year and she broke up with me and also broke my heart. We still continued to be best friends even after the break up. We both moved on and I met this amazing girl. I dated her for about 8 months when she told me that she was falling in love with me. This scared me to death because I also knew that I had fallen in love with her and I was scared of the way i had been hurt earlier. So like a little babby, I broke up with her in fear. I did not know that my friend had broken with her boyfriend earlier because she was still in love with me. After about 4 months me and my best friend went on a date. After that one date I realized that I had really screwed up when I broke up with the other girl. So I broke it off with my friend making her pretty mad.. Heres my Dilema:
1) If I tell the other girl that I am in love with her, I will more than likely lose my best friend.
2) If I don't tell the other girl how I feel I will for sure lose someone that I know I love with all of my heart.
*If anyone has any advice, I would appreciate it.

[jackie4553]

It looks like maybe you have to decide if the risk of losing that friendship for the possibility of love is worth it or not. If she is really you friend you will not lose her. You can not have them both you have to take a risk either way, but you have to pick one.

[jackie4553]

Another thing I have learned...however stupid it may be the heart wants what it wants and it might be wrong a lot of the time, its always good to follow your heart. :)

[b00bah]

i agree jackie :) just follow your heart.....if you love the girl then tell her amd you friend will have to deal with it. It would be silly for your friend to disown you because you dont feel the same about them as they do about you.

...Then again your friend might fall out with you, but you will be with the person you love and friendships can always be rebuilt.

Probly useless advice but i thought id give my opinion :)

[eightball61]

I agree that you have to follow your heart but breaking up and redating these girls are not the key. Eventually they will just get sick of it. What you need to do is work on your thoughts and pick the one you really want to be with. Dont date anyone until you have that settled. Your mind is going back and forth like a seesaw and these girls will eventually give up. Now that you are single approach the other girl with your feelings. See what she says and work it from there. There is no garentee what may happen but take it step by step.

[smackie9]

Go for it! Don't worry about your best friend. If she values your friendship, she will get over it. Only time will tell. It's all about you now and what you want. Good luck with your new love!