ual Problems! Any suggestions?

[nemo]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We are in a long distant relationship, however distance isn't our only problem. My boyfriend gets upset with me, because I am not as ual as he would like me to be. I do not blame him at all either. In my previous relationships, I was more ual (mentally, emotionally, physically). We sort of concluded that I am not very ually attracted to him. He has been the best man I have ever been with, and I want to make this work. I am not sure if it is because he was a virgin with little experience when we got together? I have tried suggesting different things we could do to help me be more into with him, but it still isn't enough. I thought that it may be my drive at this certain time in my life, but I still do think about and want it. Plus I'm only 23. Sometimes I see a scene in a movie and wished he could be more like that. My problem is that I want him to be more "manly". Can you only go so far with improving the in a relationship? Or is it: You either are ually attracted to someone or you're not? Have any of you ladies ever gone though or are experiencing this?

[Diablo]

Nemo, the quickest way to anger a man is tell him he needs to be more manly, so telling him that directly would get him to blow a fuse. Could you sort of guide him to coming to the conclusion himself or maybe put it in different words to him? How about, "you always wait for me to initiate things, you can get the ball rolling too ya know"? That gets your point across without insuilting his manhood. Most women are masters at manipulating men, you should be able to come up with something. How about watching a movie together in which a man gets manly with a woman during a scene and acting turned on to the point he notices? Do not overplay it. You don't want him to decide you have a thing for the actor. Anyway, good luck with this.

[Howard]

Nemo,maybe you have to go slowly in the ual relationship part.What gets him turned on when you're around?

[nemo]

He is always willing to have when we are together. I get into it and then it plummets! I haven't told him this, but he actually is not that great in bed. I am attracted to a man who can take charge by grabbing me but it seems that I am usually the aggressive one! He is not an aggressive or passionate person in bed, and I do not think he could ever really be. He grew up with 4 older sisters. has become such a big deal in relationship these days. I don't want it to break our relationship though, but it[I] is[I] really bothering us. He has a passive aggressive personality which I can deal with, but he also is in bed. He would be really rough (which i love) after we have discussed our problem, but then he goes back to the "before".

[Howard]

Maybe shouldn't be much of an issue,It's not really that important,Is It?

[PositiveanHappy]

I was in the same situation with my last bf and it didn't change for me. Either they have what it takes to rock your world or not. We tried for over 2 years and decided that it couldn't work. I always thought about and wanted my last bf that did rock my world. I found myself not able to settle for someone that doesn't satisfy me ually. isn't everything in a relationship but it is a big factor to being fulfilled by your partener.

[Howard]

I guess women don't want the guys to be having on the brain so much or to be thinking about it.More girls are work-oriented and they think that is unimportant to them.