bhunter
07-21-2007, 08:36 PM
I have been in Engaged to a girl for a year now and I believe that I am in love with her. However, since we have been out of college over the summer she picked up a job working on a ranch (which she loves). I see her very little now, one or two nights a week. Our life is great when she is in around but I am one of those people who gets very emotionally attached to who I am with. Lately I have asked her to try to manage her hours more effectively as this is an informal job. She spends much of her time there on the ranch when she isnt working. When I proposed this to here I did not see her for a very long time and she said she was questioning whether she loved the job more than she did me. I was very distraught over this and overly emotional when she was around. She said she disliked the emotion I was displaying and once again I felt hurt. When we talk she often brings up that we are very different from one another in likes , etc but when asked she says she still loves me. Lately I have been paranoid that she is possibly having an affair with the man she works for at the ranch as everyone (including myself) dislikes him and she believes him to be a great man. I believe this paranoia to be just paranoia but still I question it in the back of my mind. She claims that she wants me to get a hobby or something I enjoy doing so that I wont think of her so much while she is gone. I have tried but been unsuccessful. When asked whether she thinks of me while she is away she answered, "Not at all". Could someone give me some advice? Should I call this off? I have always wanted to be in a relationship where both parties were obsessed over one another and could understand one another when they had problems. I believed this relationship to be like this for this until these last few months. Please help!