What would YOU do:

[50Mustang]

Hi all,




I'm a 27 year old male and my girlfriend is 21. She will be going off to college as a junor in another state for a least 3 years; after that; she may move even further to NYC.

I do love her, and I want to be with her in the long run; if she matures. However; my mind cant get over the long distance and when will there be time for us.

She will have a new life, new friends, and a new time zone! I just dont think it will work. Her brother plays football for the college so she will ALWAYS be around other guys which just adds to the situation.

She says that she wants it to work; but at 21, with no long distance experience I just dont think she FULLY understands what she is saying.

What you you all think? What would you do?

[Lady Love]

If it were me I would probably be having the same insecurities as you are. The proof of the pudding however is in the eating, with all your anxieties you still will not know fully what will happen until you actually go through it. So relax as best you can and go with the flow. Chances are, given your ages you still don’t know what the outcome of the relationship will be even if your in the same state:) :cool:

[eightball61]

Hi all,




I'm a 27 year old male and my girlfriend is 21. She will be going off to college as a junor in another state for a least 3 years; after that; she may move even further to NYC.

I do love her, and I want to be with her in the long run; if she matures. However; my mind cant get over the long distance and when will there be time for us.

She will have a new life, new friends, and a new time zone! I just dont think it will work. Her brother plays football for the college so she will ALWAYS be around other guys which just adds to the situation.

She says that she wants it to work; but at 21, with no long distance experience I just dont think she FULLY understands what she is saying.

What you you all think? What would you do?


It's a tough position to be in especially when you care for her a lot. In a case like this there's only really two options...Try to work it out or put things on hold while she goes for her goals.

You don't have to be rated as an insecure person because anyone facing something like this will have their doubts. The best thing for you both is to talk(not fight) how to make this work if you want to make it work. You'll have issues with people she talks too but you do need to keep in mind that if you both stay together then you know where her heart is at....which is you :)

This relationship can survive this long journey but will take a lot of effort to do so. You will need to except that she has goals to furfill and will meet others along the way. Accepting her meeting others will be hard but has to be done or the relationship will go sour.

This all boils down to security and acceptence. If you both can overcome this then things will last. You have to keep in mind that she will have the same insecurities with her being gone and you meeting new people...So you both are in the same boat.

Communication is key here so as long as you both communicate, trust, and accept then things can work out.