Happily engaged but others protest.

[lover1]

Hi everyone, I have a question. Everyone has been telling me that I am rushing things with my fiance. A little over a year ago I got out of a 5 1/2 year relationship and within a month I got into another relationship and I am now engaged to this man. I have been knowing him since we were in the seventh grade and we were always friends and wanted to be more but we couldn't because of other relationships. We were only together for a year when he proposed to me. Some of my friends are telling me that it is to soon and by the way I am 21 and am a college student. But I don't think it is. I love him with every inch of my body and I know he feels the same way. I know that he is truelly the only man for me. Plus we don't plan on getting married until I graduate any way. Could you please tell me your opinion?

[eightball61]

Just follow what YOU think is right and not what others think. This is your life and not theirs. After my sisters divorce she got married to another guy like months after and had a baby. Its all up to you and how you want it to go. Congrats. on your engagement :D

[Rich]

It's your life to do with what you want. I think a long engagement is good as it affords you the opportunity to continue to get to know your partner.

Since a happy, loving and successful relationship requires so much more than just love, use your engagement period to see how much honesty, communication, openness, respect, passion, freedom, humor, friendship, maturity, trust, patience, acceptance, equality and compassion you two have for and with each other.

Get to know each other on all of those levels (plus some more) and guage whether or not to get married on what you see exists between you both. Engagements are good only if you use the time to help you prepare for your wedded life, instead of just your wedding day. Don't let the fact that you have a ring on your finger prevent you from breaking things off if you don't feel it's right. Don't feel trapped.

IMO I think you're too young to be getting married and that you should experience more life first. Most marriages of people who get married at a young age don't last. I don't say that as a shot or anything of the kind. It's just a fact.

In life, things are what they are and facts are facts. They're facts for a reason actually. If your fiance loves you at 22, he should still love you at 25.

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[PonyGirl]

I agree with you, Rich. I'm 28 soon to be 29 this summer and have been with my current guy for 2.5 years. We've discussed marriage and decided we aren't ready for it even though everyone on both sides (parents mostly) are pushing for it. Right now what we have works for us.

lover1, do what you want b/c in the end you are the only one who has to live with your decision.

[Diablo]

If you have known this guy since seventh grade and don't plan to marry right away, your frineds are misinterpreting the situation. Anytime something postive happens, the naysayers will come out of the woodwork. Do what you think is right. After all, they aren't engaged to him, you are.