HELP pleas first time long term

[Bjarni1981]

So this is the situation, please read to help you understand.

Well ok me and my girlfriend started dating 15 months ago. We fell deeply in love, and with in 2 months I moved in with her and her parents. then thing started to go a little sour. She is a former anorexic (12years) She started to fall apart when her exams started and stopped eating and sleeping. I fell with her cause I was so concern t. Then I had an emotional crisis during Xmas, stress, work, exams and more. Then there were more problems, she wanted to end the relationship 3-4 times cause she felt not good enough. then we moved in together and she got pregnant. She lost the baby 15 weeks into the pregnancy. After that things went to shit. I broke up with her. But always feelt wrong about it. So we got back together and are trying to work it out. But Im confused, not sure of wether I still love her or not. She is a wonderfull girl, and very beautifull. But Im not sure wether we belong together pleas help, how do you know what to do?
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[coach]

It sounds as if your g/f brings quite a number of fairly complex issues to the relationship.

On the one hand, I feel like saying: "follow your heart", but then I know relationships are never that straightforward.

If you feel she is not the right one for you, or you doubt that you can make things work between you, then, although it may be very painful for both of you, the right thing to do in the long-term and in the best interests of both of you, is to let her go.

It's no good staying with someone because you don't want to hurt them, or to avoid the risk of them thinking they are not good enough for you.

Maybe an agreement to spend some time apart will help if you are unable to make a decision straight away - your uncertainty is telling you something, and you need to listen to it, as does your g/f.

[Rich]

You're both way to young and immature to get married.

Start using birth control.

Both of you seek professional help as it sounds like you both have emotional issues to deal with.

Be more practical about choosing a long term partner. Come up with a list of solid attributes that you feel will make a relationship work and then rate this girl against that list.

Anorexia is not an issue that you can help her overcome. Let her get her life together before you commit to her, if that's what you still want to do a few years from now.