Ways to make a relationship better...

[xxsirvtecxx]

well i made a thread with my problems and my disposition right now....what are things that you guys recommend that I can do to make a relationship better & stronger during a seperation between me and my g/f.....We were so happy at the beginning, but the last 6-7 months we have been so rocky.....and its at a part in time where im giving her the space she oh so wanted and space for me to think about what iv'e done wrong....also time for me to make amense between us and make us even better as a couple....i just wanted to know what to do while a seperation to make a relationship for us better and greater......i dont want anyone else but her, and i can see that she loves me with all her heart but the arguments and no communication lately has been hurting us......i just wish i could have my baby back and every thing be somewhat to what we use to share.... :(

[eightball61]

Time will only teel the real truth to what may happen with things for you. In the time though of the seperation the best you can do is give the space needed, be there when its the right time to talk, and go on with your own life. Basically, you have to just be patient...

[Rich]

What you can work on is to make yourself a better person. Make yourself into someone that somebody would want to spend the rest of their life with you.

Go over your relationhship and what you did good and bad. Actually you should make a list.

The things that you did bad or that you would like to be better at are what you should work on.

Are you open, honest, trusting, communicative, appreciative, caring, respectful, attentive, mature, intelligent, funny, friendly, loving, accepting, secure, confident, intimate, positive, faithful, giving and thoughtful? These are all things that go into making a relationship successful and happy.

Look at that list and work on the areas that you feel that you're weak in. Of course it takes two to make a realationship work and your partner needs to be able to offer all of the above as well. But all that you can do is to control what you bring to the table.

If you can offer all of the above, then all that you need to do is to find someone else that can offer the same. Taking care of you is half the battle.

BTW...if you can do and be what's on that list, it'll make you a better person on the whole and not just in your relationships.

My God...I'm freely giving away all of my trade secrets. ;-)

Hopefully people are taking notes and picking up on what's required to have that one special relationship that we all crave and that we're all striving to have.

Getting somewhere is pretty easy if you know how to get there. I just basically told you how to get to nirvana.

Good luck

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[xxsirvtecxx]

thank you guys alot, if anyone else has anymore to share be my guest and post I will read and take notes....but as far as Rich, man thank you....I've known what the steps are to true love...but you broke it down for me, and I appreciate that....eightball you've been a big help also....well just going to work on my relationship....I think writing will help me, I may just take each topic step by step and do a self evaluation....and work on what needs to be done. Thank you guys and Im totally open to any other methods or what not.

[Rich]

It's my pleasure.

That's my gig, man, to make awesome relationships easy to understand and to have. And they really are easy to have.

Guaranteed that if anyone was to evaluate their current relationship against that list (there's a few more words on my total list), that they will see EXACTLY where their relationship is weak and needs help.

And what you'll find out is that most of those words work in conjunction with the others. They ALL work together to give you what you're looking for. If you're not trusting...then you're probably not open...and if you're not open, then you're probably not secure....if you're not secure, then you probably are judgemental. Well, you get the picture.

Most people think that they will just find someone and relationship happiness will just follow. Unfortunately it just doesn't work that way.

You want a great car or house....then you have to always work on it. You have to do repairs and PREVENTATIVE maintenance.

You want a great child.....then you need to always work with them and on them.

Relationships are the same way. They don't "just" exist.

Now you know some of what you need to work on.

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[xxsirvtecxx]

Yea im actually doing some writing right now, and as I right, each of the topics you have pointed out, im actually breaking our relationship and the true meaning of the word and would like her to read the work I've done and see how I feel about our relationship.....just I hope she see's where im coming from and not just think about herself.

[Rich]

let us know what happens.

I'm signing off for the day.

Good luck