im so confused

[lilgrmlin1030]

ok .. well the last few months my ex was making me cry everynight ... because .. he just said stuff to piss me off.. well we were togehter for a year and 4 months and we broke up a few weeks ago.. i love him to death .. but hes such an ass..well i hate being alone so the temp guy right now ... hes hot but i deff. know hes not for me .. and i dont feel anything then we kiss... and i cant stop thinking about my ex... hes my everything ... i mean i want to just forget about him .. but on the other hand i want to be with him for the rest of my life .. for the bottem of my heart .. some of my frineds say stay with the guy im with know .. but i just cant stop thinking ive made the biggest mistake of my life.. please help me :confused:

[eightball61]

What you need is space and stop all dating activities. If you feel nothing for this guy then you are right and he's not for you. After sometime talk to your ex more and explain your feelings to him but also add what makes it hard to date him. You both can start things off slow again then build up to see if it was meant to be.

[xxsirvtecxx]

sorry to say this but, i mean if you love him so much, why did you go find someone else? I mean if you truly do love someone you would work things out and not just end...but then again we havent heard the whole story. You predicament is somewhat like mine, right now me and my g/f need some space, we have been each others face (not in a bad way only prolly 25% bad) since we first met.....i moved in with her, and pretty much my parents disowned me after I left to be with this girl, but yea I moved in with her, family is cool and shes great, but right now we are having communication difficulties and trust on my end because she goes out from 11pm to 7 am at times but usually till 5am, to go kick it with friends from work and i get worried about her, i mean i dont want anything to happen to her while shes out and she is starting to get agitated about me worrying all the time. And also we just need space to grow, so ive started to give her space last weekend and our valentines day wasnt so great so Im staying with a friend of mine until things get better between the both of us, I think personally you guys can work it out just that you two need to communicate to each other how you feel and how that person makes you feel....so try that and let us know whats up.

[smackie9]

Dump this other guy, you won't find any happiness there. You need to get over that X, honey! Time to kick back with your girls and party. Ignore the X, you be the asshole. You don't need to put with that crap!

[Rich]

IMO opinion here are your choices.

Dump this guy that you're with because your heart is not in it and it's just a relationship to be with a body.

Go back with your ex-bf and......

#1 work out the issues that caused the problems between you.

or....

#2 get your ass emotionally and mentally abused even more until you've reached the point where there's no doubt that you want to end it and you know in your heart that this guy isn't for you.

Sometimes in a relationship when you get hit with a hammer over the head, you mistakenly think that it was accidental. Maybe you're the type that needs to be hit in the head a few times to understand how things are.

So stop crying and being miserable. Go back to this guy, understand what the issues are between you two and repair them. Or stay this time until you unequivically know that "he isn't THE ONE".

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com