Jack4545
11-13-2007, 07:27 AM
I have posted here before about this problem. I have an ex-girlfriend who until semester end I can not get away from because her boyfriend and brother live 20 feet away from me in the dorms.
Now the problem isn't that I am not over her. Just over the summer I broke off contact from her and decided I didn't want to be friends with her after she broke up with me. I was nice about it but firm and it really is the reason I am over her. I didn't talk to her all summer and when I came back, as is my luck of course, she is in my German class. Well she tries to get me to study with her. At first I accept then i stand her up and the next time in class I tell her I don't want to study with her. I don't give any other explanation and I also cancel the trip we had planned to Europe without an explanation.
After that the shit hit the fan and she started doing all this crap to try and socially destroy me. However I took the advice you guys gave me and ignored her completely and haven't actually spoken, except once which is explained below, to her since. No matter what she did to get my attention I would ignore her. Well one night me and her are at the same party with me ignoring her and her ignoring me. Until she gets drunk (i wasn't drinking because she was there) and she starts calling me a . In front of the whole party I tell her that I hate her guts and to please leave me alone and I haven't spoken to her since.
Well apparently that was not ok to say. Immediately after that the group of guys I hang out with which are connected to her boyfriend and brother ( he has never expressed anger at me and we hang out some but very little) start excluding me. Now we don't even talk and I know they all want in her pants so I am pretty sure they are doing what she tells them to do (she gives men incentive and is good on her word about putting out) which is why I now only hang out with 1 guy up here. So I just start hanging out with a group of girls from the opposite dorm of the mens dorm. This group of girls are cool and I develop a crush on a girl in this group who has a boyfriend 300 miles away.
Now this girl is very loyal to her boyfriend which is awesome and makes me like her more. I never act on it and I never act inappropriate to her. Well I have a friend who graduated and he came up to visit and asked me to go to the bar with him. My ex-girlfriend goes too because they are also friends. Well this girl I have a crush on calls me and invites me over to hang out. My friend who is drunk ask if I am going to hook up. I tell him no and he ask why. I tell him she has a boyfriend and joking he says that doesn't matter. We then have a dialog that says something to the fact that I can take the guy and should just hook up with her. As a joke I go along with it and leave laughing hang out with her and her friends and have a good time.
Well the next day I go up there to watch football and all the girls are acting really weird to me. I leave and think maybe they don't want me around anymore. Well the next day I am walking to class see the girl I think is cute wave and she just gives me the biggest go to hell look I have ever gotten in my life. Then I go home and get on my computer and her boyfriend who I don't know tracked me down and sent me a message saying I can't take his girlfriend and shouldn't try. I send him a very nice message saying I don't want to and he shouldn't worry because it is a soap opera up here and it is all just hear say. I just think she is cute. Then i message her and tell her that all I had was a crush and that I it isn't a big deal and that I don't want her to leave her boyfriend for me. I also end it by saying I don't need this shit. She then sends a message back by telling me not to be so hostile and that she hadn't been a like she could have been and that she wasn't going to leave her boyfriend for me. She then proceeded to tell me that she will never call me for a booty call and that it wasn't one. She also tells me she is questioning my character. Well I get mad at this point for her not even talking to me and assuming I did all this and tell her that while I did nothing wrong not to believe crap that is told to her and that I would rather just never see her again because her boyfriend messaged me and as I said before I don't need to deal with that shit.
Well like a moron I thought that was the end of it and I was ready to move on with my life. Her boyfriend sends me back a message threating me and telling me to watch what I say. At this point I blow up tell him to go screw himself among other things and tell him that I will say whatever the hell I want. Then I tell him that while I don't have that big of a problem with him he can come find me when I am back in town (we grew up in the same city but I have never met him) I can kick his ass for him ( I know I know it was stupid but I just lost it).
So as you may be asking how where did this girl get all these ideas from? Well apparently my ex-girlfriends friend, who I don't have exactly a good relationship with, knows the girl I was crushing on and her and my ex went and told everything they overheard me say to my drunk friend plus some.
So I have this ex who I don't acknowledge exist and after 3 months of not talking to still wants to be as hateful to me as possible. She has some dude I have never met wanting to fight me, and has successfully destroyed several friendships. All this after dumping me by having the guy she dumped me for tell me instead of her.
I can't break my lease till next semester I am stuck here. I just want to get away. Any advice? This was mostly a vent but advice would rock. She is up here all the time after hours when females aren't allowed to be. If she gets caught one more time she will get kicked out of the university should I go tell on her? That would just make me feel like I was stooping to her level, but should I? I just don't know what to do.
Now the problem isn't that I am not over her. Just over the summer I broke off contact from her and decided I didn't want to be friends with her after she broke up with me. I was nice about it but firm and it really is the reason I am over her. I didn't talk to her all summer and when I came back, as is my luck of course, she is in my German class. Well she tries to get me to study with her. At first I accept then i stand her up and the next time in class I tell her I don't want to study with her. I don't give any other explanation and I also cancel the trip we had planned to Europe without an explanation.
After that the shit hit the fan and she started doing all this crap to try and socially destroy me. However I took the advice you guys gave me and ignored her completely and haven't actually spoken, except once which is explained below, to her since. No matter what she did to get my attention I would ignore her. Well one night me and her are at the same party with me ignoring her and her ignoring me. Until she gets drunk (i wasn't drinking because she was there) and she starts calling me a . In front of the whole party I tell her that I hate her guts and to please leave me alone and I haven't spoken to her since.
Well apparently that was not ok to say. Immediately after that the group of guys I hang out with which are connected to her boyfriend and brother ( he has never expressed anger at me and we hang out some but very little) start excluding me. Now we don't even talk and I know they all want in her pants so I am pretty sure they are doing what she tells them to do (she gives men incentive and is good on her word about putting out) which is why I now only hang out with 1 guy up here. So I just start hanging out with a group of girls from the opposite dorm of the mens dorm. This group of girls are cool and I develop a crush on a girl in this group who has a boyfriend 300 miles away.
Now this girl is very loyal to her boyfriend which is awesome and makes me like her more. I never act on it and I never act inappropriate to her. Well I have a friend who graduated and he came up to visit and asked me to go to the bar with him. My ex-girlfriend goes too because they are also friends. Well this girl I have a crush on calls me and invites me over to hang out. My friend who is drunk ask if I am going to hook up. I tell him no and he ask why. I tell him she has a boyfriend and joking he says that doesn't matter. We then have a dialog that says something to the fact that I can take the guy and should just hook up with her. As a joke I go along with it and leave laughing hang out with her and her friends and have a good time.
Well the next day I go up there to watch football and all the girls are acting really weird to me. I leave and think maybe they don't want me around anymore. Well the next day I am walking to class see the girl I think is cute wave and she just gives me the biggest go to hell look I have ever gotten in my life. Then I go home and get on my computer and her boyfriend who I don't know tracked me down and sent me a message saying I can't take his girlfriend and shouldn't try. I send him a very nice message saying I don't want to and he shouldn't worry because it is a soap opera up here and it is all just hear say. I just think she is cute. Then i message her and tell her that all I had was a crush and that I it isn't a big deal and that I don't want her to leave her boyfriend for me. I also end it by saying I don't need this shit. She then sends a message back by telling me not to be so hostile and that she hadn't been a like she could have been and that she wasn't going to leave her boyfriend for me. She then proceeded to tell me that she will never call me for a booty call and that it wasn't one. She also tells me she is questioning my character. Well I get mad at this point for her not even talking to me and assuming I did all this and tell her that while I did nothing wrong not to believe crap that is told to her and that I would rather just never see her again because her boyfriend messaged me and as I said before I don't need to deal with that shit.
Well like a moron I thought that was the end of it and I was ready to move on with my life. Her boyfriend sends me back a message threating me and telling me to watch what I say. At this point I blow up tell him to go screw himself among other things and tell him that I will say whatever the hell I want. Then I tell him that while I don't have that big of a problem with him he can come find me when I am back in town (we grew up in the same city but I have never met him) I can kick his ass for him ( I know I know it was stupid but I just lost it).
So as you may be asking how where did this girl get all these ideas from? Well apparently my ex-girlfriends friend, who I don't have exactly a good relationship with, knows the girl I was crushing on and her and my ex went and told everything they overheard me say to my drunk friend plus some.
So I have this ex who I don't acknowledge exist and after 3 months of not talking to still wants to be as hateful to me as possible. She has some dude I have never met wanting to fight me, and has successfully destroyed several friendships. All this after dumping me by having the guy she dumped me for tell me instead of her.
I can't break my lease till next semester I am stuck here. I just want to get away. Any advice? This was mostly a vent but advice would rock. She is up here all the time after hours when females aren't allowed to be. If she gets caught one more time she will get kicked out of the university should I go tell on her? That would just make me feel like I was stooping to her level, but should I? I just don't know what to do.