Help me please....

[klm1979]

I've been with my fiance' about 6 months now, he proposed after 4 months. He is so amazing, I love him so very much, he treats me so great. I don't want to be without him. The thing is, is that his parents are taking control of everything having to do with the wedding, I dealt with that and came to the conclusion that as long as I marry the man I love everything will be perfect. But still he has to answer to them all the time and is more worried about keeping them happy and doesn't seem to care what it does to me. What do I do? I never thought I'd feel this way about anyone, we're perfect together but I can't contunously deal with what's happening :( Somebody please help

[Rich]

Are his parents paying for the wedding?

If they are, then you sort of have to go along, but to a point. Does he go to them or acquiesce to them on all issues?

If they are paying you can always say to him and his parents, that you'd rather go a different route and pay for it yourselves. That way you and your fiance control things. Maybe they'll get the hint and let you control things more.

If his parents aren't paying then you both need to kindly ask them to back off. Him, more so than you. He needs to do it delicately, but he needs to do it.

If he can't do that and his parents are the contolling type over him, then you're getting a picture as to how a good part of your marriage is going to look.

If you don't like it, then try to stop it now. Stopping it after is too late if he won't change and it's unacceptable to you. Speak up now.

How old are you both?

Are you sure that you know this man well enough that you're going to spend the rest of your living days with, after only 6 months? Have you planned at all for your wedded life and not just your wedding day? Can you accurately express what type of marriage that you want with your fiance? What are you looking for? What would constitute a great marriage in your eyes?

Just some questions.

Rich
www.awesomerelationhsips.com

[eightball61]

I agree with Rich here about them paying and them not paying. I am a disc jockey and I deal with wedding clients all the time. Each side of the family like to come in an contribute thier portion but sometimes it runs into a battle on who puts more in. They have to be told to back off some and that you BOTH appreciate the input but the planning is going to what you BOTH want.

Its nice to have the help of other fork thing in and supply input but you have to remember the final desicion comes with you both. You both need to talk about this and create a goal on what you needs to get done and work from there. If others want to help out or supply input welcome it but dont allow it to come in the way. If you both decide to go with anothers idea then you BOTH should agree to it.

[William Scott]

Hop on a plane and visit Elvis in Los Vegas. I was hoping my girl would agree to that. Well not the Elvis thing but ya know.

Seriously I would consider a few MOST IMPORTANT details of the wedding and express to the parents that these mean alot to you and you want to have control of them. Let them do the small stuff...parents like that stuff.

Good luck and God bless!