Love of my life has had many past partners!!

[crazeelilsailor]

I'm unsure how to feel about my girls past. She has had almost 70 guys before me she's only 25, I'm 24, but she also has two kids with 2 diff. men. How do I deal with being in love w/ her so much and knowing she has had so many guys before me. Can I believe what she tells me about her past, she does communicate freely about them, but gets easily frustrated on the subject being brought up. I don't know what to do. I wanna marry her so bad but I feel like this is holding back this relationship that I don't want to lose. HELP ANYONE????

[Butterfly]

hold ur horses man. why on earth would u want to jump into something so seriouse so fast? get to know her better and then see if u still want to be with her . and by the way, when u get married to her, ull be responsible of both of her kids. u'll have to be their role model, father etc. about her having lots of b/f's thats her problem that she has to live with. if shes faithful to u and doesnt cheat on u then i dont see what right u have to let go of her. look at the person infront of u and not the person u created in ur head. i bet ur not the virgin marry and that uve have had some partners in the past, maybe not as many but u did it too.

[Dubai]

ya i think what butterfly says is totally right :)

[TheOne]

Hey I just gotta say...70 men is A LOT for being 25 years old and 2 kids from 2 different men is even worse but who knows maybe she thought the fathers were the right ones and she made a mistake. It sounds like a disadvantage because it gives off the impression that she's easy or simply . But let me tell you something..you got one advantage about her having so many partners before; at least you know she's been there, done that...so you'll know she's not gonna be running around being curious what a different partner is like.
Like me, I got it kind of tough cuz my girl has only had me. So I worry sometimes that she'll get curious and want a different partner to try out. so my only options are ending a 2 year relationship for good if she's curious, or simply give her a chance to try a different partner during a break. You already got that taken care of, she should pretty much be loyal. Hope this somehow works, let us know what you will decide to do

[Uncopyrightable]

I'm unsure how to feel about my girls past. What do you mean

unsure how to feel Dude. HOW DO YOU FEEL?





How do I deal with being in love w/ her so much and knowing she has had so many guys before me What, you think you should be the first and only? Is she your first? What is that, a double standard? Women are not made of soap; they do not wear away with use. I would have been more concerned with diseases.

I wanna marry her so bad but I feel like this is holding back this relationship You are holding back this relationship. Put aside your dreams of happily ever after and look at this women as a PERSON. Does this PERSON have the qualities you have always dreamed of in a mate? Does she have the morals and values you that you have found work? And yes, you can sleep with the home team and still have morals and values; maybe not main-stream, but still…



, but gets easily frustrated on the subject being brought up YOU have an issue with her past, get off her back. If, as you claim, you love this person, just what do you love about her? Doesn’t sound like you love the WHOLE person, just the parts you approve of…

HELP ANYONE You need to make some decisions. She is either the person you want, the KIND OF person you want, fits, farts, freckles and all, or you have found out what many a man before you has found… Trying to make the un-acceptable acceptable will make you crazy.



Does she have a job, is she self supporting? Or living of her paychecks… I mean her children? Education? Goals? Some kind of direction in life?



Are you having fun yet?

[TheOne]

What do you mean am I having fun yet?

[crazeelilsailor]

Thankz for all those willing to post to that thread. I was a little depressed, I guess. I love her no doubt about it!! I wouldn't have let it go this far if i wasn't OK wit it. Her past that is, I've come to the realization, and she's even swore to me that I am the first man she has ever truly loved, no doubt that she means that. She swore on her kids, what else do I say?? I just sometimes get mad depressed, I mean I work all day, she sits at home on the computer all day. I bring home all the cash, besides her weekly 100.00 for child support. All my money is gone within 4-5 days-I'm just living paycheck to paycheck and I get frustrated. She doesn't really do anything around the house all day, then she goes to school everday 5- 8p.m. while I watch her kids, cook dinner, wash dishes. Am I supposed to keep this pace up , or have I set myself up here for failure...I sometimes wonder and maybe some of the things in her past is my reasoning for thinking that all is not ok, 'cause I'm mad torn. Love the woman she can be sometimes, but hate the way things are for me day to day. YA knows..Hit me back with a perspective, something I can think 'bout. Maybe I'm just nutz..HEHE Thankz guys..

[jan]

That would suck. It would take a very confident man with absolutely no insecurities to have a successful relationship with this woman. I know of no man who could have this sort of knowledge about their woman and not let it consume them from time to time. If you are some sort of superman and can handle the news than you are a bigger man than most.

[precious]

Thankz for all those willing to post to that thread. I was a little depressed, I guess. I love her no doubt about it!! I wouldn't have let it go this far if i wasn't OK wit it. Her past that is, I've come to the realization, and she's even swore to me that I am the first man she has ever truly loved, no doubt that she means that. She swore on her kids, what else do I say?? I just sometimes get mad depressed, I mean I work all day, she sits at home on the computer all day. I bring home all the cash, besides her weekly 100.00 for child support. All my money is gone within 4-5 days-I'm just living paycheck to paycheck and I get frustrated. She doesn't really do anything around the house all day, then she goes to school everday 5- 8p.m. while I watch her kids, cook dinner, wash dishes. Am I supposed to keep this pace up , or have I set myself up here for failure...I sometimes wonder and maybe some of the things in her past is my reasoning for thinking that all is not ok, 'cause I'm mad torn. Love the woman she can be sometimes, but hate the way things are for me day to day. YA knows..Hit me back with a perspective, something I can think 'bout. Maybe I'm just nutz..HEHE Thankz guys..
OK I have to put my two cents in.. First of all if this girl is not working or at least keeping the house nice and such then she is a loser! If I was her I would keep the house up and have dinner ready for you and the kids so all you would have to do is pop it in the mic.. She is just useing you honey, I am sorry to say this.. I would not do this to a guy I love to dealth..

[BabyBlue06]

Wow that is alot of men. I think u should have her tested and try to keep an open relationship with her.

[Skye]

If you wanted a hooker, you'd be a pimp.

Marry someone with a healthy rel~ to money,

dignity,

morality,

values,

self-respect.

It's not about a double standard, it's about the fact that she obviously hates herself a lot to be with so many men by the age of 25. Are you sure the numbe she gave is accurate? It's inordinate and asinine.

You say you love her, in this case, I don't think love is enough. You're young, enjoy your life.
I hope it works out for you.