Left Him Part 2

[jackie4553]

Thanks guys for the advice...I bumped into my ex while I was on a date (he was just with a guy friend) It did not seem to effect him (this I knew was not a good sign) I talked with him...told him I missed him.Called the next day to go to lunch and said I wanted to work it out. He said that we have tried and that it does not work and he does not want to try again. :( what a blow. Thats ok....it sucks to hear but I knew that was a possibilty. I took a chance. Now just sad......
Any comments?

Jackie

[jackie4553]

What really pisses me off is the guy is a neat freak and opens his medicine cabinet everyday to brush his teeth.....I stopped by 3 weeks after we broke up and he said it was stil there if I wanted to use it. I said no thanks.....so now its been 1 month and 2 weeks and he still has it there. So I brushed my teeth and threw it in the trash can. He then brushed his and looked around for it and got mad that I threw it out....wierd! What ups with that????

Jackie

[eightball61]

The only real reason why this got you thinking and going on the subject again is because you saw him. Fate brought you his way for some reason but that doesn't mean you both will be able to work out what you both once had. Fate could have brought you both together so you can get that last closure that it was all done.

Remember this is the same guy that never let you see his parents nor said "I love you" . for some reason he is not looking to settle but you are. You want him back in the sake of hope that things will change but all the signs show that will never happen. Its very hard to move n but you have done on for the last up until now. Eventually things will cool off like they did before but just seeing him brought it all together.

Its tough to forget about a love but soemtimes you have to accept the fact that its not meant to be. Do you see where I am coming from here?

I mean look at all the things that happened in the relationship and sk yourself if this man did truelly want what you wanted? Try to see the reason why its not meant to be. Its tough but you have to just accept that fact. I wish I had better words for you but this is the trueth and you'll eventually see what I mean.

[MissCheivious]

God, that sucks! Don't let the part about seeing you not effecting him change you. It DID effect him. If you called him and he said all that stuff, you're better off going out with other people. More than likely, his little ego was bruised because he saw you with someone else. Don't run to him. Let him know (without letting him know) that you've moved on. The best revenge on anyone is living well whether you're faking it or not. When you're tempted to call him, DON'T!!!! I'm going through the same thing right now and I can't tell you how valuable that info is. Calling them reminds them that you love them and that you're eager to work it out. Even if you are, don't act like it until you have a clear as day sign that he wants to as well. This could mean losing him to someone else but that's the chance you'll have to take. Your dignity is worth a lot more. Besides, if it was meant to be, it will be. I hate it when people tell me that because when you're alone and missing someone, the last thing you want to hear is how it will work out only if it's meant too. Don't let pain run you. You don't NEED anyone to survive. In fact, there's this really great e-book I have about breakups and how to get your ex back if you can. If you want, I'll email it to you. It's a step by step guide that's really helped me. Just let me know or if you want to buy it yourself, I'll look up the email addy for you.

[eightball61]

MissCheivious, is right on here and you dont want to chase him down. On the otherh and I wouldn't even wait for him. He stated his demands on what he wants and right now he doesn't want anything. Like I stated though take that as a closure and move on. Its hard to move on and will take time. My advise is to take it slow and try to get over it. Its going to be a step by step process by do thing that will keep you away from talking to him again. Seeing him at theat resturant just triggered some new thoughts but it will eventually die down again.