soon to be inlaws

[Floridamom84]

Ok here is my problem. My fiance and I have been together for almost 3 years we and we have a 1 1/2 year old son. We decided to get married despite his cheating on me last Aug. that was really hard for me to deal with. Anyway I have had numorous issues with his family everything from his sister being a 19 year old drug addict brat, his dad telling people it ok for my fiance to have other women on the side and lastly his mom is a snooty money sucking leech who bad mouths people thinking shes all that. I find it pretty funny that she is always trying to give me marriage advice when hers failed horribly and every relationship since then has ended with a pretty nice crash. How do I deal with these people and should I even have a wedding? We were planning big with no stress or problems until his mom started barking at me! I end up crying and upset everytime she opens her mouth. PLEASE HELP:mad:

[eightball61]

should I even have a wedding?

This is a decision that you have to make yourself. Remember, that marriage will not hide these issues. If you have to question things now then it's best to try to resolve a few things before you both marry. You won't be able to change his family and neither can he. The only thing that you both can do as a couple is to work on this together. You both have many issues to work out in order to make this work peacefully and happily.

[Rich]

Think long and hard about getting into this family. You didn't state your fiancees position on what is going on. Is he on your side, or his family's?

Family will always be around and if it is an issue now, then it will always be one, unless he's willing to dump them for you? When married, partners come first in thoughts and actions.

The fact that his dad thinks that it's ok to cheat and your fiance cheated already, also isn't a good sign.

You need to both understand why he cheated in the first place and deal with that. It's not enough to say, he cheated and I ultimately forgave him because what did you both do to remove the cause of why he cheated in the first place?

My advice is to stay engaged for a while longer and see where both relationships level out to.