Hmm... Should I Move??

[916love609]

So.. My boyfriend lives on the east coast and i live on the west coast. I love him with all my heart n i kno that he is the one for me, but my parents dont approve of me dating a black guy. I want to move there and live with him and spend my whole life with him, but my parents r threatenin to disown me and never talk to me again. I really do love him and kno he is the only one for me... but i just wanted to see if someone else thinks that it is worth it. Im scared to move, but i feel that it is something that i have to do. I cant loose him and just the thought of it hurts me drasticly. I have my mind made up that im moving. i kno its going to hurt my parents, but i hope they will get over it. What do you think? :confused:

[eightball61]

How old are you both?

[916love609]

im 19 n hes 21

[eightball61]

im 19 n hes 21

You're pretty much old enough to make your own decisions. If you live your life worrying what your family or other people may think then you'll never move ahead in life. You learn life from the choices that YOU make. If you want to make the move then do it however its not a bad thing to make a list of pro's and cons before you make the final decision. Also, don't make the move to purposely go against your family.

[916love609]

You're pretty much old enough to make your own decisions. If you live your life worrying what your family or other people may think then you'll never move ahead in life. You learn life from the choices that YOU make. If you want to make the move then do it however its not a bad thing to make a list of pro's and cons before you make the final decision. Also, don't make the move to purposely go against your family.


Thats pretty much exactly what i wanted to hear. Thats wat me n my bf say all the time.. n i jus wanted to see if anyone else felt the same way. n i am not doing it like despise them or ne thind. its just the way things happened. i think u love who u love and theres nothing that can change that and i love him. i dont care what race he is the only thing that matters to me is that i love him. i jus dont know why my family cant just be happy for me and just forget about it. Its not like i ment to do this. its jus what happend.

[eightball61]

You leaving will be taking a lot of chances which can turn out negative or positive. You won't know the true outcome of things unless you make a move. Now I'm not saying you should make the move but since this is a big decision with risks involved you want to think things thoroughly...i.e. getting a job lined up, prepare for loneliness since you will not know anyone, prepare that your family may not speak to you until they get over it(if they do), be sure he is the one......You are making a decision that will have effects positive and/or negative that may impact your life in years to come.

[916love609]

me and him have talked about all of these things.. were looking for jobs and seeing if i can get a job where he works.. and i kno that im gunna b lonely and its going to hurt but i think i can get threw it.. he is trying to change slowely... hes lettin me hang out wit my friends now.. and isnt controling wat i wear that much n e more... he jus wants ta make sure i dont show to much skin.. ya kno.. unless im wit him then he says he doesnt really care... ive talked to him... and i told him that i dont like some of the things he does.. and he is really changing and i can tell... the thing wit my family is jus a big part.. i love my parents... but i love my bf so much.. and i am so sure i want to b wit him forever... hes all i ever think about... and there is nothing that can change my mind bout that.. we have tried to break up and that never works... we jus always get bac together because we cant live wit out eachother.. were talkin bout movin in together.. gettin married... n all that good stuff.. i kno that i will b lonely.. but all of his family loves me and are so nice.. i think it will help cope.. my parents r set in the old mindset that you should date your own race... im allowed to have friends that are black.. and hang out wit them.. but jus not allowed to have a realationship with them... i think my parents just dont like the "gangsta" kind of people.... and thats wat they think my boyfriend is... but he is "preppy" not at all like they think... so i jus wonder that since they dont have a prob wit me bein friends with them... and stuff then y not date... i jus think they might learn to get over it if they just met him and see how happy he makes me... hmph

[eightball61]

he is trying to change slowely... hes lettin me hang out wit my friends now.. and isnt controling wat i wear that much n e more... he jus wants ta make sure i dont show to much skin..

& you say he's not controlling.....Read your quote again and even again.