To stay or Not to stay.

[Miami305]

Hi everyone, im new to this forum and have been going threw some tough times in my relationship...so i want some advice from you guys....and girls. so let me begin.
Im 20 yrs old and have been in a relationship of 5 yrs. we went threw highschool 2gether and now im in my second year in college (shes not going to school)...ok the first three years were really good but the last 2 has been really rough. we've spoken about how we're going to change blah blah blah, but honestly we never do. now all we seem to do is argue about the same things (about making it work) or little stupid things.
Ok i do seem to be a flirt (but i say im a friendly guy)...but i NEVER crossed the line... Now, my girl is very pretty, attractive, and shes a sweetheart with me. she IS the wifey-type girl and i know shes been faithful and will be...thats how much in love she is with me. BUT, she dosnt trust me @ all!!! shes always saying that i hooked-up with everygirl in the city!!! my school, my job, my block...everygirl!!! ok that gets veeeeery annoying...and its also the pointless arguements that we have, shes very jealous and wants me to spend every single minute with her!!!
So iv spoken to my friends and some tell me to break up now bcz we got into a serious relationship way to young, that i shouldnt get committed and i dont want to be 45 yrs old looking back @ what i could have done in my younger years, but i didnt bcz i was with her...i understand what they are saying, maybe i should be single and just let everything out. (do what single guys do). but the thing is i dont like to be alone, shes alwayz there for me and she is in fact a good girl....and everytime im about to leave her she sux me in by saying "you'll never find a girl like me, that no1 will love u as much as i do". i hate wen she does that bcz that makes me think 2myself if im doin the right thing. alot of girls now-a-days are loose and dont give a shit about anything. so what if i break-up with her and then get into a relationship with a girl thats a hoe?... do u get me? did i get into a relationship to young? pllllz give me some honest advice bcz idk what to do...thanks.

[eightball61]

Hi everyone, im new to this forum and have been going threw some tough times in my relationship...so i want some advice from you guys....and girls. so let me begin.
Im 20 yrs old and have been in a relationship of 5 yrs. we went threw highschool 2gether and now im in my second year in college (shes not going to school)...ok the first three years were really good but the last 2 has been really rough. we've spoken about how we're going to change blah blah blah, but honestly we never do. now all we seem to do is argue about the same things (about making it work) or little stupid things.
Ok i do seem to be a flirt (but i say im a friendly guy)...but i NEVER crossed the line... Now, my girl is very pretty, attractive, and shes a sweetheart with me. she IS the wifey-type girl and i know shes been faithful and will be...thats how much in love she is with me. BUT, she dosnt trust me @ all!!! shes always saying that i hooked-up with everygirl in the city!!! my school, my job, my block...everygirl!!! ok that gets veeeeery annoying...and its also the pointless arguements that we have, shes very jealous and wants me to spend every single minute with her!!!
So iv spoken to my friends and some tell me to break up now bcz we got into a serious relationship way to young, that i shouldnt get committed and i dont want to be 45 yrs old looking back @ what i could have done in my younger years, but i didnt bcz i was with her...i understand what they are saying, maybe i should be single and just let everything out. (do what single guys do). but the thing is i dont like to be alone, shes alwayz there for me and she is in fact a good girl....and everytime im about to leave her she sux me in by saying "you'll never find a girl like me, that no1 will love u as much as i do". i hate wen she does that bcz that makes me think 2myself if im doin the right thing. alot of girls now-a-days are loose and dont give a shit about anything. so what if i break-up with her and then get into a relationship with a girl thats a hoe?... do u get me? did i get into a relationship to young? pllllz give me some honest advice bcz idk what to do...thanks.

You learn life by the choices you make. With that said staying or leaving her is your decision and not ours to make for you. You'll never know if you made the right decision or not. You need to go with your heart and be proud of that decision and if that decision latter fails then you'll learn from it. Being apart while in school, job, or whatever reason always leads to insecurities. As a couple you both learn to work through it together and if you can't then things will fall apart.

Your decision at this point is to either seek what else is to leave or stay and again that's up to you.

[Diablo]

How old are you? Also, different people are ready to settle down at different ages. But that doesn't seem to be the issue here. The issue seems to me that her jealousy is a pain. Sure, she's not a hoe, but the good girls can drive you nuts in other ways. This girl seems to have some insecurity issues and they could sabotage the relationship regardless of what you do. Sit down with her and tell her you want to stay with her, but the jealousy is a pain in the rear.

[Miami305]

yeah u both are right... but first i just wanna say that i didnt mean to say "hoe", i know thats not the right way to describe a girl (i dont call girls that) i just meant girls that are "loose". just wanted to set that str8 so no1 gets offened.

im 20yrs old & yes, its a pain in my ass wen shes constantly acussing me of doin things THAT I NEVER DONE!!!!...the past week its been OK with her. we havnt argued or anything but i KNO that, that wont last long. bcz theres been many times where we doin ok but then we endup fighting over stupid things...its like this. when i go out with my firends she goes nuts!!! like she would call me every 15 min or txts me allllll the time. and if im chilling with the guys (i really am) she would always say that theres girls with us. that pisses me off!!!

like i said we're doin ok now, so i feel like ok maybe this could work out after all. but then wen we get into these lil immature fights i just wanna get the hell away from her!!! i feel my heart is so confused!!! LOL...but im serious.

[Diablo]

Welcome to the real world. If I had a dollar for every time a girlfriend got bent out of shape about bs, I wouldn't run out of money for a while. People are now trying to pressure me into putting my neighbor in a nursing home. The only one she could afford would be a terrible place where she wouldn't make it a week. If I put her in one, I would feel like a murderer, so I haven't and I won't. Damn busybodies piss me off. Anyway, to get back on topic, this girl has issues and at 20, you're too young to be chained to a jealous woman. If she can't understand that you're just going out with the guys, the relationship will probably do you more harm than good.