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jenrobsdad
03-08-2008, 07:33 AM
Hello...

I have posted several threads about my former gf and I. It all finally came to a head last Tuesday evening. We were all stressed from moving into a house. Her son and her got into it and her son slapped her. (He is 18) She was exremly upset and then her son said he was going to go live with his dad along with his younger sister. I walked into all this and was not as supportive as she wanted me to be. She said it was over, and that her son and I was to get out of her life. She later checked herself into a hospital on a 72 hour suicide hold. She is still there. I spoke with her this evening. She did npt hang up on me as I expected her to. She was very quiet. I asked her if she still loved me. She said that she did not ever want me in her life. I asked again and she said "i dunno" I asked her if she thought we could ever see each other again at all, again "i dunno" She did not want me to visit her at all. She is very scared that when she gets out not only will she not have a home, but her kids for the first time will be living with their dad 80 miles away. She also said that they will be keeping her longer than the 72 hours. She then had to go. I asked if I could call again, once again "I dunno' I said I love you and she said nothing and hung up. Her sister said the family feels she has Bi polar and she is just not thinking. What should I do? I still want her in my life so much. I want to regain her trust. We were living together for 3 1/2 years and it was a very intense relationship.

eightball61
03-08-2008, 03:59 PM
As much as it hurts now you'll soon find out this was the best thing that could have happened to you. Rich said it best in one of your threads that you were a sucker because of the way this women has treated you. She sucked you for rent and suckered you on that she was on a dating site just for laughs.....If it really was just for laughs then why hide it, right?

This women now needs time to seek personal help. There is nothing that you can do to help her. At this point feel relieved and start focussing on YOU. It will be hard at first to move on but once you do I bet you'll be posting here thanking us.

Diablo
03-08-2008, 08:58 PM
This woman has to focus on healing more than anything else. You can offer her an ear, but the pressure to resume the relationship is something she doesn't need now. Just offer her an ear if you talk to her again and ditch the pressure to resume the relationship. She will get defensive and hang up on you if you keep trying to ressurect the relationship. Now isn't the time for that. Bipolar disorder is a serious illness and she needs to be focusing on getting better. You should just offer her an ear if she needs one. Follow through on that, and you should get her back later. Pressure her to resume the relationship, and the breakup will become permanent.