Are we over and just do see it yet?

[lost]

Hello all,

[eightball61]

What you are dealing with is very natural. She doesn't see your seide because because she only has her view. Right now wanting another child is just in the talks. I know that you rather prepare now and thats a good thing. You can ask her to see eye to eye on this but will be very hard. Sometimes turning the table is good but again its still hard to say what will happen. A child can bring happiness but also more grief. If a 3rd child is brought into the picture it could setup for finacial grief or just stress in general.

I do think before you both take this approach then its best you both work out your little kinks first. It seems you both just lost that spark and just to wound up into the whole marriage thing. You can child some marriage counseling but maybe try taking different approaches to things so you both get get more active. Try to denicate more time everynight together when the kids are in bed, on warm days go for a walk, cook a nice little dinner. Kids really can help lose a spark to a marriage because you all dont get enough personal time but you both just need to find that time.

[smackie9]

You should dig a little deeper as to why she really wants another child. Is she sad that the others are now old enough to be indepentent so to speak. The youngest just started preschool right? Maybe she feels life isn't so fullfilling unless she caring for a baby. Wow, how is she going to be when they all leave the nest?? Is she a stay at home mom? Maybe she needs a part time job or a hobby to fill the void. Just an idea, Later.