My thoughts for today

[William Scott]

Before anyone gets into a relationship you must be able to love who you really are, be able to spend time alone and feel 100% confrontable and stick by your morals and values. If you arent confrontable with yourself and you cant stand being alone you often give in and accept someone who doesnt fall under your list of acceptable relationship contenders.

Another reason that you should have master the craft of being alone is just in case the new or old relationship doenst work, you wont be temped to stay around because you are afraid you wont find anyone else or you are just afraid of change. Cheaters, beaters, liars dont deserve someone like you. Move on and get yourself out of emotional harm. Love will find you..true love. But you must be ready mentally and physically to accept it. I use to be that person who stuck a bad relationship to the end in hopes my goodness would shine though into the other person. I have come to realize my goodness has already shown though and the other person did not accept who I was. I have move on, and will continue to move on till I feel I am accepted for me.

There is no excuse for cheating or mental or physical violence. Please seek help, there alot of programs, agenices and people who can help. A child should not have to see there mother being beating by a man, either by husband of boyfriend. The scares will last a lifetime. Turn to God for direction and trust in what roads he provides.

God bless!

[bdtraders]

your words are awesome, the funny thing is that my current GF (who told me to move out 30 minutes ago) isthe one that brought me to god again. I care for her so much but sometimes the things she says or does really hurts me and when i try to tell her how i feel she acts like they are no big deal. I honestly dont know what to do anymore, i love her with all my heart like i have never loved anyone before, and at times she claims to have the same feelings but at other times she acts as if i matter less to her then the gum on the bottom of her shoe. my friends tell me to walk away and go back to how i was, her friends and family reassure me that she needs help but does love me with all her heart. Im so torn sometimes i dont know what to do. Do i stick it out and hope for it to change, or do I throw in the towel (again) and move out.

[eightball61]

That is is a good post for awareness....ofcourse though it really differs from person to person and situation to situation. I personally, could not take back a cheater but some people can. When it comes time for abuse many people that I have seen post on other boards also have a hard time leaving because they have te belief that things will turn around like they were or they are just to afraid to leave.

Personally, You never know who the right one is for you. You could be in a marriage for 35 years and figure out that person is not the one. This is why I like to tell people to take relationships slow and build off from it. Most new relationships the couples are not thier normal selves because they change a little to impress the opposite partner. Down the road though things change and the relationship becomes more settle and you know the person you are with. Then again you will never know a person 100%. When people cheat or hit we never expected that of them. When you turn on the news at night and see a family speaking about a memember that did something wrong they always say " I never though of him/her this way".

This is why trust is very important and communcation to any relationship for me. I know many partners differ and some lack communication and trust(me) they just have to find a way to make it work. If they can't make it work then they hit a deadend and it be time to turn around and start on a new route.

[William Scott]

As in life, alot of things are hard to understand or even your feelings of you cant wait for the answer almost always run though anyones mind. If she asked for you to move out, then I think (Which I am not always right) that you should for the time being. The time alone for both of you will find the answer on the value of your relationship. Like I said earlier, you must be able to find time alone to sort things out. What do you want out of this relationship, if your relationship really made out of love or is it just a friendship that needs to slow down???? That questions that will be answer when there is proper space between each other. I am dating someone right now with a kid, and we live together. I would rather know today if this relationship is going to take step forwards or backwards. I would rather be stepping forward with my life. I would sit down and talk with your girl and focus on the fact that if you move out, things may become different good or bad. Ask her what makes her truly feel that you need to leave and ask not to say what everyone else says....I NEED TIME. If she really values you and you two relationship..she should go deeper.

Relationships are made from a friendship, trust, communication, understanding, morals and values and learning to meet in the middle. When the other person doesnt want to put in more than you, its time to help them let you go. If her feelings are true then her feelings will be express. Most importantly...pray to God to help find the right road. He is always there to listen.

Take the the time...because love will wait forever.

God bless!