HELP - My last Thread i HOPE.

[HelphelpPLZ]

Well she just called me from Cali she hasn't stopped crying... i kinda figured out this is for the best not being with her right now. maybe soemtime in the future but i'm still keeping my options open.
Now for my question... how should i approach things... lately i've been calming and reassuring and like "don't cry your in cali go have fun" (its her first time in cali and shes always wanted to go and she doens't want to do anything now she just cries)

OR

Should i ignore her calls... Ims... all that... ignore her in the halls at school... whenever she approaches me blow her off like an asshole.. Which route should i take? the reasoni bring up being ana sshole is because maybe if i am she'd have an easier time getting over me but i don't know... any advice is apopreciated.

[eightball61]

You take the approach that you feel is right. We have allready gone over this and you are asking for help but you are not trying what we request. You made up you mind now stick with it. If you want her back you can try it again but that step has been tried a few too many times and has failed.

[HelphelpPLZ]

i am trying what you are requesting... i ignored her, didn't answer any of her calls... and all that stuff.. i wanted to call her so bad but i didn't give in becase you said it would be abetter idea not to. The only reason i answered today is because she's in cali and i don't know if maybe something went wrong or something.. (i have a huge fear of people i love getting on long flights) so i picked up. Trust me i'm listening i'm just very VERy confused... i usaulyl am when it comes to myself. thank you though.

[bdtraders]

i feel your pain helphelpplz but as you can see from my posts i cant get past the point of not calling. How do you do it, it kills me inside. Especially when im at work and bored to death and have nothing to do.

[HelphelpPLZ]

Not to toot my own horn but i have amazing will power.... For example when i first met my girlfriend we were making out and it was like the 3rd time we hung out... and she always tells me she doesn't want to go any further then kissing for a long time. so she "tested" me by trying to undo my pants and i actually stopped her. hahaha.

Theres a bunch of diff things to do... get something to do like a game if you work with computers just don't sit there and be like "shit shit i wanna call her so bad.." i do it from time to time and i havn't given in i just go online talk to friends... go shoot (photography) it's hard to do mst things though because we shared alot of things together... like my favorite thing to do is photography and i used to shoot her for school assignments etc. So it always reminds me of her. It's a hard thing to do but ya gotta just put it in the back of your mind... think of something else... but from your post earlier you said you guys are kinda on good terms again? that's good.
it sounds like maybe she was just in a bad mood and said some hurtful things but didn't mean them you know. but your both gonna work on things so i t sounds pretty good. good luck.

[HelphelpPLZ]

by the way i think i overused the word good in that post.

[bdtraders]

lol yea good terms right now, just actually got off the phone with her she called me and she seemed a bit reserved or held back, but who knows we will see how this evening plays out.

[smackie9]

Some future advice....never go around with anyone from school. You don't have to worry about running into them and everyone doesn't get involved your business.

[HelphelpPLZ]

we already knew that.. we didn't want it to be like that and we wished we were going to different schools... i didn't even watn a relationship untio;l after high school maybe even college but she was too good to pass up she's pretty perfect for me.

[smackie9]

Well as they say...you've made your bed, now lie in it.

[eightball61]

I am not telling you to completely to blow her off but as you see talking to her is not doing a damn thing. You are very undecided to what you want and what is the point of getting into another relationship with her again with these thoughts? The way you feel right now will not last long.....It is not fair to you nor her to keep going out like this and breaking up.

You both need a good time off. Be friends for a while and try to regain what was lost to begin with. You that time to discover if she is the right one for you. You both should date around to see what is more important and what the meaning of the relationship is. All we can do is help guide you but you have to take the final step.