Books or websites

[bdtraders]

Hi all

Can anyone recommend any good books that they have read and have helped them that deal with depending on someone else for hapiness and the fear of being alone. Or websites if they are out there.

Thanks
Mike

[Rich]

I would recommend that you read books or take courses that work to develop self confidence.

When people look to others to help with their self esteem, it's because they lack confidence in who they are as a person.

I think that if you develop self confidence, that you'll find that you won't need to specifically be with others to do that for you.

I've said this before in some of my posts here and I'll say it again. Relationships that work have two people that WANT to be with each other as opposed to people NEEDING each other.

When you NEED someone you form a dependancy on that person. When you're dependant on someone you open yourself up to be let down or hurt. You also sort of defacto give the other person control over you. Relationships like this aren't based on equality and don't last.

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[eightball61]

I will say I am not much of a book reader unles its baseball orientated :D but in college I took a public speech and that gave me more confidence to approach people and voice an opinion. This class helped me out in many areas that I was weak in. Someone gave me advice to try this class and it actually worked. I am a DJ and I can talk to clients and talk in front of large groups of people but when it came to a one-on-one thing I would get scared and hide :p but since this class I was to open up more. I still find myself being shy about my feelings but I am much better than I was 4 years ago.

[missy1985]

i read the most amazing book about relationships, its called 'the little book of rules'
its brilliant, it has any man eating out of the palm of your hand....guaranteed, you follow the rules, some are a bit harsh...for example;

when you first start dating someone don't see him more than 2 or 3 times a week.

and

if he calls after 4pm in the afternoon wanting to arrange a date, tell him you've made other plans

but hey you know what, it really works, it teaches you to be independant as well...i'd rate it 10/10

Lx