Is this an insult?

[MrBodnar]

In another forum I frequent, The question was asked "Who do you think is the most beautiful woman in the world?"

I replied to this "My wife, although there are lots of woman who are prettier."

She saw My posting and is highly insulted, when to Me it was a compliment. I know how I meant it, but obviously she mistook my meaning. What would be your reaction to such a posting, and how would you interpret its meaning?

Thanks,
MrBodnar

[eightball61]

You knew what you meant because you wrote it however words can mean different to a reader. Put yourself in her shoes.....you'd probably read it the same way she did.

As a wife she expects to be the prettiest of them all and with your words she sees that you find other women more attractive than her. What you meant though is a different attraction. You meant it as a beautiful model, star, ect. Your wife is beautiful to you and you should share that every moment you have.

Let things calm down a bit and try talk to her by what you meant. Mention the fact(in a adult tone) that you're sure she idolizes male and female stars. Remember, they're are many beautiful people in this world and its ok to think so. This is just one of those things that it's better to keep to yourself.

[Howard]

It's a compliment and it was directed towards her so she should be thankful for it.

[Rich]

50/50. Depends how insecure she is and how your relationship is.

You should have just left it at, "my wife" without the additional wording. What you wrote can be viewed as when you try to set up your friend with a girl and he asks you what she looks like, and you reply that she has a great personality.

All wives want to feel that their husbands are physically attracted to them and that they find them attractive.

Your wife might not feel that you're physically attracted to her from that comment.

I think that you're in for flowers, dinner and movie to make it up to her.

[MrBodnar]

What it meant was that it didn't matter what she looks like, to me she is the most beautiful woman in the world. The old "looks are only skin deep" deal. It was an attempt at not being superficial, I thought women liked that sort of thing. Who knew.

~~makes reservations~~
~~calls florist~~

[Scubasteve]

Well, my father told my mother the other day that when he married her she was his trophey wife and now she is his best friend! OUCH! He didn't mean it in a bad way, it is just a plain stupid thing to say. Just like your comment.

[Howard]

What it meant was that it didn't matter what she looks like, to me she is the most beautiful woman in the world. The old "looks are only skin deep" deal. It was an attempt at not being superficial, I thought women liked that sort of thing. Who knew.

~~makes reservations~~
~~calls florist~~



Women just like for men to say things that give them a positive feeling.

[Rich]

You know what it meant, but it came out wrong. If your wife can't get over your mis-statement, then there are some deeper issues in your relationship that cuasing resentment between you two.

[Howard]

Women just want the man to say that she's beautiful in order for her to feel good.