marinesgirl
05-15-2008, 08:21 PM
As many of you will soon come to know my fiance's and my relationship is that of least to say stressful.
to make a tremendously long story short he's a mechanic and continuously wears my t-shirts and socks to work which ruins them. i've tried separating our clothes, setting them out the night before, making him wash his own, everything just short of dressing him myself every morning. so he wore a shirt that meant a lot to me to work. i told him that was wrong and was agitated and he instantaniously blows up. "you stupid , you told me i could wear this!" using more fowl language hurtful words. i combat his fowl language and yelling telling him he has no right to talk to me like that. he then stops and says "lets just stop talking before this escalates any more" so we stop, he turns up the raido and he then makes ANOTHER comment on how i make a big deal out of nothing and he doesn't understand. I told him because i have no t-shirts left and he's ruined all my hoodies and my t-shirts but never replaces them. so then he starts up with the name calling etc. i start to cry he says "cry, go ahead and cry, do you want me to cry with you? Well i'm NOT"
We then stop at our landlord's and he takes the keys out when he goes to the door. i move into the driver's seat because he was driving my poor old jeep like it was a race car. on his way back to the jeep he throws the keys on the lawn and sits down in the jeep. i told him to go pick up the keys but he wont and i end up getting them myself. fastforward to home couple hours later he's screaming in my face again and i go to shield my face from his spray and he throws my hand away. fastforward next day i haven't slept and i decide to stay home, mental health day. he calls me a stupid selfish for staying home. i then decide that i should go to work but he runs into my jeep and takes off when i told him to stop. so i cleaned my house all day and he comes home and says not a thing to me about it. i ask a couple questions he's screaming in my face again. couple hours later he orders food in and feeds me and seems like everything is ok now. no appology no nothing. then in bed he decides he wants intimacy... wrong that's a big negative. i then further explained why that was a no and all the things we need to work on. also that he has designated jobs around the house that he signed up for but has not been doing those either. He actually agreed however, that he's been slacking and needs to pick up that slack
well... so much for a long story short.
I've had quite a few come to Jesus talks with him about screaming in my face and calling me names and he seems to feel bad during and after those talks but then he lets his emotions talk instead of his real self
to make a tremendously long story short he's a mechanic and continuously wears my t-shirts and socks to work which ruins them. i've tried separating our clothes, setting them out the night before, making him wash his own, everything just short of dressing him myself every morning. so he wore a shirt that meant a lot to me to work. i told him that was wrong and was agitated and he instantaniously blows up. "you stupid , you told me i could wear this!" using more fowl language hurtful words. i combat his fowl language and yelling telling him he has no right to talk to me like that. he then stops and says "lets just stop talking before this escalates any more" so we stop, he turns up the raido and he then makes ANOTHER comment on how i make a big deal out of nothing and he doesn't understand. I told him because i have no t-shirts left and he's ruined all my hoodies and my t-shirts but never replaces them. so then he starts up with the name calling etc. i start to cry he says "cry, go ahead and cry, do you want me to cry with you? Well i'm NOT"
We then stop at our landlord's and he takes the keys out when he goes to the door. i move into the driver's seat because he was driving my poor old jeep like it was a race car. on his way back to the jeep he throws the keys on the lawn and sits down in the jeep. i told him to go pick up the keys but he wont and i end up getting them myself. fastforward to home couple hours later he's screaming in my face again and i go to shield my face from his spray and he throws my hand away. fastforward next day i haven't slept and i decide to stay home, mental health day. he calls me a stupid selfish for staying home. i then decide that i should go to work but he runs into my jeep and takes off when i told him to stop. so i cleaned my house all day and he comes home and says not a thing to me about it. i ask a couple questions he's screaming in my face again. couple hours later he orders food in and feeds me and seems like everything is ok now. no appology no nothing. then in bed he decides he wants intimacy... wrong that's a big negative. i then further explained why that was a no and all the things we need to work on. also that he has designated jobs around the house that he signed up for but has not been doing those either. He actually agreed however, that he's been slacking and needs to pick up that slack
well... so much for a long story short.
I've had quite a few come to Jesus talks with him about screaming in my face and calling me names and he seems to feel bad during and after those talks but then he lets his emotions talk instead of his real self