Advice about Boyfriend's relationship with sister

[strawberry86]

Hey Everyone!
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now and I have always been slightly bothered by his relationship with his sister. I don't have a brother myself so maybe I don't really understand what a close brother/sister relationship is like, but I would like your opinions. I've noticed that my boyfriend and his sister like to constantly joke about incest. I read some of his online and texting conversations with her (bad on my part i know :( ) and she often makes joking comments about having with him and how she wants to "bang" him. They slap each other on the butt a lot. I confronted my boyfriend about this, and he said it was just his sister's way of saying i love you. I know nothing is going on between them, physically and I know that my boyfriend and I love each other very much. I just wanted to know if this was normal behavior between siblings? Thank you.

[eightball61]

Every family relationship is different. This could be there way of saying I love you but it's in a weird way. Personally, I do see this as abnormal. I don't go around joking with my sister in this way nor I don't know anyone that does. You really have no way of knowing for real what their deal is unless you catch them in the act(gross). The best advice that I can give you is to keep monitoring the situation and if you feel too uncomfortable about it then you'll need to make a decision to see if you can handle this to the future or not.

[Howard]

In a way,It's kind of strange behavior but I'd say talk to your boyfriend about the situation and see what he says.

[Scubasteve]

I would be really really uncomfortable with that. It is not only creepy but unfair to you.

[Classie]

Hello there Strawberry...... so....you have been "SLIGHTLY" bothered by your boyfriends behavior with his sister have you?
You were wondering if this was "NORMAL" behavior between a brother and a sister?
First thing you need to do Strawberry is insert a finger into your right ear and try and unplug the build up of wax that has blocked that emty head of yours!
after you finish the right ear do the same to your left ear then give yourself a good hard slap across the back of thick skull.
Of course its NOT normal behavior you airhead!
This guy should be taken to the nearest Veterinary Hospital and be castrated.
The sister should follow suit.
To quote the movie "When a Stranger Calls"...."GET OUT OF THERE NOW".
You ARE a strawberry blonde aren't you?
It's this type of thing that makes me think we should go back to the good old days of lynch mobs?
The next guy you meet my dear just make sure he has two seperate eyebrows and not the one "uni-brow" like this pencil neck current boyfriend /rock ape of yours has.

All the best
Classie.

[Howard]

Hello there Strawberry...... so....you have been "SLIGHTLY" bothered by your boyfriends behavior with his sister have you?
You were wondering if this was "NORMAL" behavior between a brother and a sister?
First thing you need to do Strawberry is insert a finger into your right ear and try and unplug the build up of wax that has blocked that emty head of yours!
after you finish the right ear do the same to your left ear then give yourself a good hard slap across the back of thick skull.
Of course its NOT normal behavior you airhead!
This guy should be taken to the nearest Veterinary Hospital and be castrated.
The sister should follow suit.
To quote the movie "When a Stranger Calls"...."GET OUT OF THERE NOW".
You ARE a strawberry blonde aren't you?
It's this type of thing that makes me think we should go back to the good old days of lynch mobs?
The next guy you meet my dear just make sure he has two seperate eyebrows and not the one "uni-brow" like this pencil neck current boyfriend /rock ape of yours has.

All the best
Classie.

That's very funny Classie. :D

[ChristinaMH]

I back up eightball on this one. Each relationship is pretty different in every way.

My best friend actually has a relationship with his sister a lot like that, we talked about it yesterday. His whole family is really open and they talk about everything together, and they tend to joke a lot. Most others can't understand what it's like to have a relationship like that, even with their own husband or closest friend. It's a case by case basis.

My advice: accept it.

[916love609]

yeah.. its so not normal to me kreepy

[Howard]

To me it would sound a little creepy having a relationship with a sibling.

[ChristinaMH]

To me it would sound a little creepy having a relationship with a sibling.
Technically, you have a relationship with everyone you know. What makes it creepy, or socially acceptable is what kind you have with each person.

We don't know how comfortable they are with each other, or how they grew up as siblings. We don't know if this is how they've always acted around each other or if it's just a phase.

If if makes you uncomfortable, I can clearly see why. But hell, it's their relationship. If you're that bothered by it, then don't make it something you just have to deal with or attempt to change it, the relationship isn't something that seems right then.

[Scubasteve]

What difference is it if it is his sister or any other woman. He has a girlfriend and should not be allowing any other women to make advances on him. Sister or not.

[Spaaron]

Then it would basically be up to him as to what he's doing then? but then it also depends at what levels they are at? I mean if its just slapping each other on the ass then sure its weird but thats just them because they are close.

[Howard]

Then it would basically be up to him as to what he's doing then? but then it also depends at what levels they are at? I mean if its just slapping each other on the ass then sure its weird but thats just them because they are close.



But doing something different,that's another situation.

[Spaaron]

Meh..=p fair enough

[Scubasteve]

I would say something, ask nicely then break up. But that is me.

[Howard]

I would say something, ask nicely then break up. But that is me.


Yeah,It could be dangerous.

[abetterus]

Well first of all..lol..Classie thats cold...but so true...second of all...it's she a STEP sister and if so...they got it goin' on!...if not, and there that close, then your about to open up a major breach in your relationship if you tell him to stop, because your not gunna come between them if there that close. Sure seems odd to me!

[LostManSadFace]

Is his sister hotter than you? I know its gross...but hey...sometimes people were raised in..."different" settings.

[Howard]

Is his sister hotter than you? I know its gross...but hey...sometimes people were raised in..."different" settings.



It's hard to get used to a relationship like that.

[cheewagacheewag]

Is his sister hot? Definitely sounds abnormal.

[MalahFae]

Its very hard to judge sibling relationships and what is considered a normal close relationship between a brother and sister. I consider myself to be close to my brother, yet we rarely talk to visit w eachother. Personally i do think its a bit odd for her to joke about such things with him but the only person who can truly tell you what is going on is your boyfriend. If it were my boyfriend i would be quite put off as well, but never jump to conclusions. :)

[Howard]

What's been happening lately?

[Lucky]

[QUOTE=strawberry86;35221] I've noticed that my boyfriend and his sister like to constantly joke about incest. I read some of his online and texting conversations with her (bad on my part i know :( ) and she often makes joking comments about having with him and how she wants to "bang" him. They slap each other on the butt a lot.

[Lucky]

Hi there Strawberry.

There are two issues here.

First: the "incest/" comments which personally doesn't sound appropriate to me.

Second: imagine she wasnt his sister but just a female friend.... would you feel comfortable with him behaving like this with her? Doesnt sound very respectful to you, or to your relationship