Reasons for break up

[Spaaron]

Whats the lamest reason that your partner said to you for a break up?

Heh i'm just bored decided to make this topic x)

[Scubasteve]

Well, I have never been a fan of "it's not you, it's me"
LOL!

[Spaaron]

Haha that seriously is lame!!! I've done some pretty bad ones before, during my first few years in high school i used the excuse "I'm doing bad in school work think we should break up" but i was tight cause there were another two girls in my life x) *sigh* couldn't help it :p

[Scubasteve]

Mmm. I am trying to think about the ones I have used.
First long term. I am not in love with you. We can still be friends. That progressed to leave me alone you freak or I will call the police. Get out of my car! Eventually I sprayed mace on him and stopped going where I knew he would be, which meant I had to stop going to my gym.

The next one I just told him it was over and moved out. Also stopped taking his calls. He still owes me money.

The last one cheated on me so I told him that his best friend had told me (he did) and walked out of his house with all my stuff.

[Spaaron]

Ouch! poor you :(

One of the worse reasons for break up i've heard from one of my friends was peer pressure.....and he had such a good relationship going on, he was only in year 8 at the time and was already 1 year and then he brings her to meet us and then just 3 of my friends just gave negative comments :( i remained neutral i didn't want any part of it but just try and support to help them.

I hate the ones where people say "its not working" when there's nothing wrong, "are you serious or joking around i can't tell".........one of my friends he's a funny guy broke up on MSN because he said she took too long to reply and she said exact same thing back and so it ended there haha

[Scubasteve]

Well, it may be working for one party and not for the other.
They guy I lived with was happy. I was not. Then again he was an abusive asshole.

[Spaaron]

Aww :(, you know i don't know why but for some reason majority of the girls i know end up with these guys that just treat them badly *hint hint* I"M JOKING haha...One that pisses me off the most is my x girlfriend is i said "its not what i want" her "it is what you want" then story finished :(

[Howard]

"I Should've broken up with you months ago":(
"You can't take care of me"(financially) :mad:

and these were some of the things she had said over the phone to me the week of Valentine's Day,the biggest week of the year.:(

And we both live with our parents even though they want a working man which I am and working at Pathmark as a cart attendant Part Time 4 days a week with 2 or 3 days off and Her and I were doing so well up until February of this year until she went nuts on the phone.A month later,I wanted to know if she still had feelings for me and that was the end of that relationship after 3 1/2 years.Thing is,I can't move on and there is something that I want to get off my chest with her,I'm determined to keep winning her back as many times as possible but even though it's going to annoy the hell out of her and it might,she's probably moved on herself.We don't see each other or call,just email occasionally which kind of sucks but that's her form of communication with me.She's the girl that kicked my ass and wanted me to get a job wihich I did with the help of my job coach.I love working women and it gives me things to talk about with her and it increases our communication skills together.That's about it.

[Spaaron]

:( gee that sounds so slack what she did, i support you in fighting for her back but becareful or maybe wait a longer time interval. She could be defensive like my x girlfriend =p but i don't know

[Scubasteve]

Howard, don't waste your time on Robin. Look at it like a chapter in a book that is now closed. You learned from it and it is done. Now take what you have learned and find someone better for you.

[Howard]

:( gee that sounds so slack what she did, i support you in fighting for her back but becareful or maybe wait a longer time interval. She could be defensive like my x girlfriend =p but i don't know


She just emailed me like we always do on occasions and she wished me a very happy Father's Day,a good summer and a happy life.Sorry I didn't mean to hurt you she keeps saying in the email but there's nothing to be sorry about It's no one's fault,no one's to blame,it just didn't work out anymore after 3 1/2 years,Why should you be sorry for something that she never did? I'm sorry it didn't work out either,that's life.I can't fight her,She might have won the relationship game but she's not going to push me down in the game of work,I love my part time job and hopefully soon I can be able to achieve a full time one,then I can shove it in her face later.

[Howard]

Howard, don't waste your time on Robin. Look at it like a chapter in a book that is now closed. You learned from it and it is done. Now take what you have learned and find someone better for you.



Yeah I have to move on,It's time for someone better to look forward to and hopefully this next girl won't have the same manners as Robin did.

[Spaaron]

Maybe she says sorry because she wanted it to continue but beause she ruined it then she feels bad and knows that she may have made a mistake? I'm just guessing

[Howard]

Maybe she says sorry because she wanted it to continue but beause she ruined it then she feels bad and knows that she may have made a mistake? I'm just guessing

It's no one's fault,the relationship ended,didn't work out.Hey I wanted it to continue too but this break-up just took me by surprise that February 12th,week of Valentine's Day.

Well,if she made a mistake,Why doesn't she just call me up and tell me that but no she doesn't want to call or see me,just an email will suffice.:mad:

[Spaaron]

Not sure can be many reasons for that :(

[Scubasteve]

I think she is genuinely sorry that she hurt you. Just tell her that it is ok and that you don't blame her.

[Howard]

I think she is genuinely sorry that she hurt you. Just tell her that it is ok and that you don't blame her.

Ok,when the next time she emails me or when I email her which will be most likely Independence Day weekend(July 4th).

But why is she afraid of us calling each other on the phone like friends,I understand seeing each other would be worse but just a call as a buddy/buddy? What's wrong with that? Are her Parents going to get angry at her,they probably would.:rolleyes:

She didn't hurt me,I'm not that offended.

[Howard]

Not sure can be many reasons for that :(



What are the reasons?:confused:

[Howard]

She has to remember that I'm the only guy in her life that ever loved her physically and emotionally,Financially, no.I already know from her past years ago what she had told me about going out with 2 guys in 2 weeks she had met over the internet but it didn't work out on JDate so it ended,that was that.And then she had met me on October 10th,2004.I was her first REAL boyfriend and glad to be called REAL.

[Spaaron]

I don't know really i'm only making assumptions i mean for example she could be afraid? don't know why or she just has a strong emotion to cover herself up and move on, or she got bored? I'm not sure really x)

[Scubasteve]

She probably does not feel ready to speak to you as yet Howard.

[Howard]

I don't know really i'm only making assumptions i mean for example she could be afraid? don't know why or she just has a strong emotion to cover herself up and move on, or she got bored? I'm not sure really x)

She could be afraid of commitment,maybe that's the case.Maybe when she met me in October 2004,she thought that I would have a full time job,be a working man,and have a decent salary but months later when I told her a little bit about myself,Her And Her parents thought maybe he isn't the one and was kind of weary about creating a life with her in the future.

Well,in the past she did get bored,being in the house all day and enjoying the sunshine.She has Aspergers and one of the symptoms are boredom and restlessness.

[Howard]

She probably does not feel ready to speak to you as yet Howard.

Could I have done something wrong? :(

[Scubasteve]

I doubt it Howard. It is probably just hard for her. You were her first real boyfriend.

[ChristinaMH]

The most popular one used in my relationships are "I just don't feel like I'm a good enough boyfriend/girlfriend for you, I think you deserve someone better that can treat you like you should be treated." Or something along the lines of that.
My favorite one though was right after a fight "You're just a ing !" It makes me laugh looking back on it.

[Howard]

I doubt it Howard. It is probably just hard for her. You were her first real boyfriend.



I'm the first person in her life to be called real,must be a compliment of some sort.I wonder what was "real" about me? :confused:

[Howard]

I think you deserve someone better that can treat you like you should be treated."

Or what if the girl says that,that probably pisses the guy off,it sure in hell pissed me off a little when Robin in the email said that a month after I wanted to find out if she still had feelings for me(March 12) and she told me that you deserve someone better but I'm not the one for you.After 3 1/2 years now she said it? What took her so long? :mad:

[Lamprey2]

Maybe we could make a consolidated thread about this Robin broad, I keep running into threads hijacked with news about her :) And I was having so much fun reading breakup reasons before this one got hijacked too!

[Howard]

Maybe we could make a consolidated thread about this Robin broad, I keep running into threads hijacked with news about her :) And I was having so much fun reading breakup reasons before this one got hijacked too!




Sorry Lamprey,I didn't mean to be talking about her so much,I'll try to keep it to a minimum.I'll keep my posts in the "My (ex)Girlfriend" thread.;)

[Lamprey2]

Heck man, no worries, but if you constantly think & write about her it's got to be making it tougher to forget too, right?

[Howard]

Heck man, no worries, but if you constantly think & write about her it's got to be making it tougher to forget too, right?



She's someone who I just can't get out of my mind,It's hard to forget her.:(

[Lamprey2]

Always is. Tried meeting someone else?

[Howard]

Always is. Tried meeting someone else?




few of the co-workers at Pathmark are trying to get me to take this girl who works in the Meat And Seafood Dept out for coffee.I finally had the balls to ask her out.She told me when she comes back from Jamaica West Indies,Her and I will go out for coffee and exchange e-mails.:)