My Girlfriends Over Clingy Friends

[ChillGuyFl]

- Hey guys I have been dating my girlfriend unofficially (but we dating and talked very frequently) for a few months and officially for about a month.

- We have been trying to have some private time but sometimes it is so hard because she has a couple of clingy friends that constantly invite her over, call the house numerous times a day at least 2x + sometimes up to four. They also stop over unannounced many times which is a little awkward.

- It just seems rather annoying is there any way to deal with this problem???

[Fizzgig]

In my opinion if you really want some private time with her you need to talk to her. If her friends invite her over or show up unexpectedly (as rude as the latter is); she needs to just say "Hey, not tonight guys" and give you some time. It is certainly not too much to ask.

[Howard]

You could talk to her about having some time alone with each other,that's one idea but if she doesn't understand then you have to make her understand.

[ChillGuyFl]

I don't know its just pretty ridiculous, it seems that her 2 friends are always at her house pretty much as soon as she gets home from work.

Then she ends up getting tied up in their own little dealings. She ends up seeing them wayyy more often that me.

I guess if I am just persistent with her she will be more willing to spend more time with me. It has been about 4 months that we have dated.

[Howard]

I don't know its just pretty ridiculous, it seems that her 2 friends are always at her house pretty much as soon as she gets home from work.

Then she ends up getting tied up in their own little dealings. She ends up seeing them wayyy more often that me.

I guess if I am just persistent with her she will be more willing to spend more time with me. It has been about 4 months that we have dated.



So you think her friends are more important than you,sort of like they are more of a priority than you are?

[ChillGuyFl]

certainly seems like that at times

[Howard]

certainly seems like that at times



She should make you a priority,it's important in a relationship.

[Spaaron]

I say give it straight to her, tell her and talk to her don't sit and wait letting things carry on as they are making you feel annoyed, unhappy, stressed etc. If you don't like it maybe take a step up and say to her friends to not come by at all just randomly cause your busy and need your space, theres nothing wrong with just saying it.

[Howard]

I say give it straight to her, tell her and talk to her don't sit and wait letting things carry on as they are making you feel annoyed, unhappy, stressed etc. If you don't like it maybe take a step up and say to her friends to not come by at all just randomly cause your busy and need your space, theres nothing wrong with just saying it.

But wouldn't they get angry?

[Spaaron]

Sure she would get angry but look at him, he's getting annoyed and stressed out more and more for something he isn't asking for...Why can't he have his own space if needed? I mean it is his house and they pop up randomly? Like HELLO! its more like WTF or something especially if she with her friends. Like er.. what are you doing here? =p Better up front then playing games or else you become @#$%@%

[eightball61]

You can't call a girl your girlfriend if your relationship is unofficially.

Talk to her but don't come off too pushy because at this stage your trying to pull her in to be official.

[Howard]

You can't call a girl your girlfriend if your relationship is unofficially.

That's true.Only if it's official and you agree to date exclusively then it would be official.

[Rich]

It's called a motel room.

[ChillGuyFl]

You can't call a girl your girlfriend if your relationship is unofficially.

Talk to her but don't come off too pushy because at this stage your trying to pull her in to be official.

very true, we are official she wont date anyone else besides me at this point. Although that isn't my biggest problem, I know she wouldn't date other people because I know how picky she is and even if a guy did take interest in her they wouldn't have the persistence to keep up with her friends and other commits.

My problem however IS winning her over enough to make her break an occasional commitment with her friends and hang out with me. Its never usually this hard, but this girl has really close friends that shes known her whole life. I figure I just have to hang in there until we get more comfortable with each other.

PS - It was her house that the friends kept coming/calling to.

[Howard]

How do you plan to win her over?

[ChillGuyFl]

How do you plan to win her over?

she goes in phases i kind of have her figured out, I just have to back off her for a little bit and just keep doing what I have been doing for the last 4 months with this girl. Just basically do what shes doing to me and then she ends up being the one to call. Its a stupid game and it should not be this complicated.

[Spaaron]

Trial and erorr if you want to figure things out

[Howard]

she goes in phases i kind of have her figured out, I just have to back off her for a little bit and just keep doing what I have been doing for the last 4 months with this girl. Just basically do what shes doing to me and then she ends up being the one to call. Its a stupid game and it should not be this complicated.

You shouldn't have to play her game,So why can't you call?

[Dragonslayer]

Wow, your in the same predicament as i am in. The only thing is these friends of my girlfriend are so called users because anything and everything i do for her or give her ends up in their hands just like her cell phone is in her friends hands not hers. Sorry gotten caught up.

My girlfriend is very unique if i should say. She has lots of problems specially from her friends that causes her to put me on the support side finacially and emotionally. I have been datin her since feb, and we still have not have . She says that she was raped by the man she loved and now she puts all his crap on me. She tells me she doesn't like kissin due to the rap because that was the main thing about it. She kisses me only because i like it and she loves me. We have been together this long and i would of thought since she had with her ex's only two. That I would be too. Its not i pushin it on her its just she doesn't like to show her feelings out, sometimes shes stressed sometimes shes just not like there. I am Aries so i am very lovey to her, i buy her stuff, kiss her neck and arms, play with her hair, and feel up on her alot. I just don't know if its me or just my girlfriend is just like that. She says it all has to do with the rape and her ex-boyfriend. But why should i be punished for something someone has done, she says im the only person she trusts but not deep enough so to have time alone with her or have . The times i do get her alone, she is freakin depressed, stressed or not in the mood. What can i do to figure her out, she has me so twisted around her finger but i feel like i am standing on a tight rope telling myself she is not using me that she really loves me. Sorry for jacking your tread its just i had to tell it out.

[Howard]

What's been happening lately?

[ChillGuyFl]

What's been happening lately?

See the dog thread lol, I just had been over-thinking the situation slightly I just feel that she is just overworking herself, working full-time and then when she gets home she has alot of work to do still, by then shes dead tired. It is going to be hard to make time, but she says we can make it work and that seeing each other on the weekends is better than nothing if it works out that way.

Wow, your in the same predicament as i am in.

It's kind of crazy but if I really like the girls personality and really attracted to them its hard to think rationally at times. I hate it.

[Howard]

See the dog thread lol, I just had been over-thinking the situation slightly I just feel that she is just overworking herself, working full-time and then when she gets home she has alot of work to do still, by then shes dead tired. It is going to be hard to make time, but she says we can make it work and that seeing each other on the weekends is better than nothing if it works out that way.



It's kind of crazy but if I really like the girls personality and really attracted to them its hard to think rationally at times. I hate it.

Is it hard for you to see her because she works full time?:confused:

[ChillGuyFl]

Is it hard for you to see her because she works full time?:confused:

well she gets up at 6am then gets home at 4-5pm then brings home work, by the time she eats something its time for her to go to bed already =S

[Howard]

well she gets up at 6am then gets home at 4-5pm then brings home work, by the time she eats something its time for her to go to bed already =S

Damn,that's a long day,maybe the weekends are best for her to see you.