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What makes a girl girl friend material?
share the qualities that your dream girlfriend would have.........
Spaaron
08-10-2008, 01:02 AM
Dream qualities eh? This sounds fun hahaha!
My dream girlfriend is easy basically these are mine:
1. Decent looking does not have to be very pretty as long as i'm happy with her and love her she's fine for me :)
2. Loving, caring, understanding, always there and supportive when you need her
3. Doesn't live too far? Nearby so you can see each other more often
4. One that loves me for my personality, for who i am not my image, or anything
5. Fun, outgoing and DEFINATELY NOT OVER PROTECTIVE (its too hard to deal with)
6. One who has skills, able to take care of herself, patient and learns things willingly so they benefit
Thats basically it, i might be missing a few things but thats my view for a dream girl, if she's very pretty like a model and has all the other qualities then i'm a lucky man. But yeah i day dream too much i never find that a girl with the qualities i presented as in all of them in 1 :(
Howard
08-10-2008, 10:25 AM
1. Decent looking does not have to be very pretty as long as i'm happy with her and love her she's fine for me
2. Loving, caring, understanding, always there and supportive when you need her
3. Doesn't live too far? Nearby so you can see each other more often
4. One that loves me for my personality, for who i am not my image, or anything
5. Fun, outgoing and DEFINATELY NOT OVER PROTECTIVE (its too hard to deal with)
6. One who has skills, able to take care of herself, patient and learns things willingly so they benefit
Those sound like good qualities,I like them. :)
smackie9
08-10-2008, 07:18 PM
That sounds like you are only scraping the surface.
What about compatibility? Nothing gives sparks in a relationship like strong compatibility.
How about Independence? Nothing worse that a needy gf.
What about somewhat financially secure....so she doesn't depend on you to buy her shit and pay for everything.
How about someone who is secure enough with their looks and carries themselves well without having to get makeup on 24 7 to go and do something.
Adventurous and open mined. Makes them fantastic in bed ;)
A complex personality can have benefits too.......someone who keeps you guessing.......being mysterious, to keep you intrigued.
Not asking for much are we hehe.
Howard
08-10-2008, 09:53 PM
Someone who has the same interests as you.
Spaaron
08-11-2008, 05:42 AM
Hahah Smackie9 i love your comments and contributions because they seem negative which wakes some of us up remembering that this is reality and there are changes and stuff =p. Mines only for my dream girl haha, but maybe what you said could work out to =]
Howard
08-11-2008, 10:16 AM
Hahah Smackie9 i love your comments and contributions because they seem negative which wakes some of us up remembering that this is reality and there are changes and stuff =p. Mines only for my dream girl haha, but maybe what you said could work out to =]
What's your dream girl like? :D
Spaaron
08-11-2008, 10:20 AM
Just basically exactly those qualities i just mentioned =p
Howard
08-11-2008, 10:15 PM
I don't need a "dream girl",it doesn't matter to me,I love them all.:D
hahaha you gotta pick one though dont you?
Howard
08-12-2008, 11:16 AM
Big Boobs and Big Butts! HAHA!:D
Howard
08-12-2008, 03:05 PM
To be serious,I don't need a "dream girl",I want someone who I can spend time with,be with most of the time and to love me for who I am and not for what's in my wallet or bank account like one person I used to know.:rolleyes:
SingleChris
08-12-2008, 08:29 PM
I'd like a girl who is fun and spontaneous, just enjoys spending time with you no matter what you're doing, and is just positive about things. Someone who can be there for you, trust and who you feel like you're a part of. Good communication is a must. I want someone who I can talk to and will just get me.
Looks do play a part too. If there is no physical attraction it's hard for me to be mentally attracted. As for what that is, just someone who isn't bigger than me, (I'm 5'8" 140 lbs) and has a pretty face with a cute smile. ually, I love the butt. A tight butt drives me crazy. Also C-cups or smaller please. D and up is just too big.
It's ok if she isn't financially secure, I don't mind paying for her when we do go out, as long as she doesn't mind when I don't have money to go out. But being confident and able to handle herself in a variety of situations is a big turn on.
Howard
08-12-2008, 10:09 PM
What about somewhat financially secure....so she doesn't depend on you to buy her shit and pay for everything.
And what about women who think they're richer than the man? No guy would ever want that.
And also I wouldn't want a woman who tells me to save up my money and I know that I have to spend it because it's hard to save up thousands of dollars in my own house,Banks don't help sometimes.
smackie9
08-13-2008, 12:59 AM
But Howard a man shouldn't care if the woman has more money if he is truly in love with her.
Spaaron
08-13-2008, 06:56 AM
That is true, i agree with smackie9, what difference does it make if she's richer than you? I mean if your pretty well off yourself and she's richer then oh well looks like you got a rare occassion. It would only be problem if you had a cultural background for example my parents aren't traditional chinese but if you get parents who are traditional then they become unsatisfied with your girl for being richer than you
Howard
08-13-2008, 11:06 AM
But Howard a man shouldn't care if the woman has more money if he is truly in love with her.
Someone I USED to know just couldn't get off her "high horse",thought she had more money but it didn't bother me,I just stuck it back in her face.:mad:
It would be nice if the woman and the man both made equal salary.
money is one of the biggest issues in modern day relationships...it is ruining them
Brose
08-13-2008, 06:14 PM
dream girl??
A girly girl who can cook, and clean, and never smells like onion rings :)
Howard
08-13-2008, 09:37 PM
money is one of the biggest issues in modern day relationships...it is ruining them
But why does money come between a guy and a girl? I didn't want it to become an issue with my ex but she wanted to so F her.:mad:
onion rings? euuw that wouldnt be the best smell now would it
Howard
08-14-2008, 10:48 PM
I would also like for my girl to be beautiful but not so perfect,some people have imperfections.
everyone has imperfections...its loving someone for their imperfections that is the true path to loving someone and knowing its real
Howard
08-18-2008, 08:43 PM
everyone has imperfections...its loving someone for their imperfections that is the true path to loving someone and knowing its real
Exactly V,I love women for who they are not for what they are.
smackie9
08-20-2008, 02:35 PM
dream girl??
A girly girl who can cook, and clean, and never smells like onion rings :)
Wow dude! You'd be lookin a looooooooong time lol!
Howard
08-20-2008, 09:22 PM
I also want a girl who is supportive of me through the good times and the bad ones,someone who is laid back and not too nervous and anxious about life and the future ahead.
ChillGuyFl
08-26-2008, 04:20 AM
I pretty much have the ideal girl in mind:
Physical Characteristics:
Skin Type - Tan / Olive Skin
Height - 5,4 - 5,7
Weight - Not Fat, someone that takes care of themselves
Hair Color - Brown/Black
Hair Style - Wavy/ Straight
Eye Color - Brown/Dark Brown
Personality Characteristics:
- Drug Free / Non Smoker
- Tomboy / Not Prissy , but still know when to dress nice.
- Affectionate
- Easy Going / Can Make Me Laugh Consistently
- Has A Decent income (She is not completely relying on me)
Conclusion: It will be pretty hard to met someone with these qualities I believe, as far as having a girl that can make me laugh consistently. I have only found 3 girls my whole life. I just need someone that can joke with me because I have a good sense of humor. I just hope I can find this person someday, I have come pretty close with my EX. (Little personality differences ended that =S) I definitely maintain myself with regard to hygiene and physical fitness.
Howard
08-26-2008, 01:09 PM
I pretty much have the ideal girl in mind:
Physical Characteristics:
Skin Type - Tan / Olive Skin
Height - 5,4 - 5,7
Weight - Not Fat, someone that takes care of themselves
Hair Color - Brown/Black
Hair Style - Wavy/ Straight
Eye Color - Brown/Dark Brown
Personality Characteristics:
- Drug Free / Non Smoker
- Tomboy / Not Prissy , but still know when to dress nice.
- Affectionate
- Easy Going / Can Make Me Laugh Consistently
- Has A Decent income (She is not completely relying on me)
Conclusion: It will be pretty hard to met someone with these qualities I believe, as far as having a girl that can make me laugh consistently. I have only found 3 girls my whole life. I just need someone that can joke with me because I have a good sense of humor. I just hope I can find this person someday, I have come pretty close with my EX. (Little personality differences ended that =S) I definitely maintain myself with regard to hygiene and physical fitness.
Wow,that's good,have you ever thought about using that for a dating site?
ChillGuyFl
08-26-2008, 05:42 PM
Wow,that's good,have you ever thought about using that for a dating site?
Yeah I have the problem with these sites are there are 1000's of people, but when it comes down to these qualities there are really only a hand full that fit my type. I am probably better off in real life I believe, So this will be a long quest for sure. =(
Howard
08-26-2008, 07:08 PM
Yeah I have the problem with these sites are there are 1000's of people, but when it comes down to these qualities there are really only a hand full that fit my type. I am probably better off in real life I believe, So this will be a long quest for sure. =(
Don't worry ChillGuy,You'll find someone,I just think that dating sites are plain crap,I prefer meeting women the old fashioned way like clubs or bars,this way you have a much better chance and a much better selection.
ChillGuyFl
08-26-2008, 08:22 PM
Don't worry ChillGuy,You'll find someone,I just think that dating sites are plain crap,I prefer meeting women the old fashioned way like clubs or bars,this way you have a much better chance and a much better selection.
Yeah, bars are ok ,clubs are kind of scary to meet the right type of girl. I like going to concerts, community events, the beach, grocery stores.
Howard
08-27-2008, 10:59 AM
Yeah, bars are ok ,clubs are kind of scary to meet the right type of girl. I like going to concerts, community events, the beach, grocery stores.
Have you tried places where you work or even want to date a co-worker?
ChillGuyFl
08-27-2008, 03:02 PM
Have you tried places where you work or even want to date a co-worker?
i try to keep work and dating separate.
smackie9
08-27-2008, 07:53 PM
i try to keep work and dating separate.
Ya that's a good idea. Some companies have a no dating policy for good reason. Dating in the workplace can cause problems and make for a hostile work environment.
Howard
08-27-2008, 09:56 PM
Ya that's a good idea. Some companies have a no dating policy for good reason. Dating in the workplace can cause problems and make for a hostile work environment.
You know Smackie,I'm trying to start a friendship at work,her name is Kamika,works in the Meat Dept.I hope in the future it develops into something greater but I'll have to take it one day at a time.She told me last week,she got off a year of breakup with her boyfriend I got off 6 months ago with mine.It may be risky,I'll take the risk,this is a first for me.
ChillGuyFl
08-28-2008, 04:04 PM
You know Smackie,I'm trying to start a friendship at work,her name is Kamika,works in the Meat Dept.I hope in the future it develops into something greater but I'll have to take it one day at a time.She told me last week,she got off a year of breakup with her boyfriend I got off 6 months ago with mine.It may be risky,I'll take the risk,this is a first for me.
If it is a bigger company or store with more employees you may be able to just slip through the cracks with it. Depends how the gossip spreads around I would suppose.
Howard
08-29-2008, 02:50 AM
If it is a bigger company or store with more employees you may be able to just slip through the cracks with it. Depends how the gossip spreads around I would suppose.
I work at Pathmark and I'm hoping that there's not much gossip.
howard, i think you are being smart about not wanting to rush into anything, or not wanting to rush her into anything.
take it slow
Howard
08-30-2008, 02:59 AM
howard, i think you are being smart about not wanting to rush into anything, or not wanting to rush her into anything.
take it slow
V,I want to be her friend first.At the moment she is taking a liking to me and we both had loss in our lives as far as breakups is concerned.Her ex abused her and my ex broke up with me over the phone.:(
I haven't had a girl in 6 months since the last time I was together with my ex (February 2008.)
wow that is a long time. have you two started spending time together yet?
ChillGuyFl
09-02-2008, 02:54 PM
wow that is a long time. have you two started spending time together yet?
lol. try 2 years? That is a long time, I felt like I was isolated from society.
yeah that is a very long time. you shouldnt be with someone though that makes you feel isolated
ChillGuyFl
09-02-2008, 09:12 PM
yeah that is a very long time. you shouldnt be with someone though that makes you feel isolated
lol, I was single for 2 years.
sorry i got confused! my bad!
courtneyxoxo
09-02-2008, 10:29 PM
big boobs and big butts?!?
i have learned, with my itty bitty tities, theres nothing you can do about it, if you get implants they wont be mushy like real ones, and when you get older, i dont think it will matter as much, if ya guys ONLY look at things like that, your love is only skin deep, and it wont last.
Howard
09-03-2008, 12:12 AM
wow that is a long time. have you two started spending time together yet?
Kamika? Yes,On her break we do.Her And I got to talk about each other's family the other day,She was telling me about her stepfather and I was talking about my Mother/Father.Towards the end of the conversation,I gave her a hug and a kiss to wish her good luck with her family and she did the same for me.:)
Now,whenever I see her outside,I'm going to rush the carts so I can talk to her,she made me feel so good inside.:)
Howard
09-03-2008, 12:14 AM
big boobs and big butts?!?
i have learned, with my itty bitty tities, theres nothing you can do about it, if you get implants they wont be mushy like real ones, and when you get older, i dont think it will matter as much, if ya guys ONLY look at things like that, your love is only skin deep, and it wont last.
I don't care about big boobs and butts,I'll treat a girl with the utmost respect cause I'm a nice guy inside and compliments come from within the heart.;)
Kamika? Yes,On her break we do.Her And I got to talk about each other's family the other day,She was telling me about her stepfather and I was talking about my Mother/Father.Towards the end of the conversation,I gave her a hug and a kiss to wish her good luck with her family and she did the same for me.:)
Now,whenever I see her outside,I'm going to rush the carts so I can talk to her,she made me feel so good inside.:)
thats adorable! good for you, looks like it might be going somewhere nice and slowly, you are building that foundation which is key
Howard
09-04-2008, 12:34 AM
thats adorable! good for you, looks like it might be going somewhere nice and slowly, you are building that foundation which is key
Yes I am and I don't want to rush into anything so quickly since we both had loss of mates (breakups) in our lives and hopefully It'll turn into something better in the future.I can see something good for the both of us.
I also base my relationships now on astrological signs since she's a Virgo and I'm a Pisces so I'm praying that this is a good match.
Yes I am and I don't want to rush into anything so quickly since we both had loss of mates (breakups) in our lives and hopefully It'll turn into something better in the future.I can see something good for the both of us.
I also base my relationships now on astrological signs since she's a Virgo and I'm a Pisces so I'm praying that this is a good match.
Howard, i think what you are doing is very smart. you are thinking with your head and your heart, but leading with your head which is always the best move. good things will come from this.
astrologically speaking have you done any research on what a virgo is like? (it must be her birthday soon if she's a virgo!) and have you gotten to know the pices side of you? I wanted to share with you what a magazine said for your sign for this month: "it's true you need a strong partner who respects your uniquiness, but try to balance your longing for independence with your loyalty to others. if you dont, you may pay a price. nonetheless, your desire for closeness can help you find the middle ground." anyway, thought you might like that.
do you know anything about libra's and libra's being compatible for one another?
Howard
09-05-2008, 09:36 PM
Howard, i think what you are doing is very smart. you are thinking with your head and your heart, but leading with your head which is always the best move. good things will come from this.
astrologically speaking have you done any research on what a virgo is like? (it must be her birthday soon if she's a virgo!) and have you gotten to know the pices side of you? I wanted to share with you what a magazine said for your sign for this month: "it's true you need a strong partner who respects your uniquiness, but try to balance your longing for independence with your loyalty to others. if you dont, you may pay a price. nonetheless, your desire for closeness can help you find the middle ground." anyway, thought you might like that.
do you know anything about libra's and libra's being compatible for one another?
Her Birthday was August 28th and she was born in 1978,I forgot what a Virgo's like but what I do know what a Pisces is.A Pisces is creative and sympathetic to others and loves to listen with a good heart and that's me,I'll have to read more on this.
I don't know anything about two Libras,sorry. :(
you should do more research on virgos...its online and very interesting.
pisces sounds sweet
Howard
09-08-2008, 10:06 PM
you should do more research on virgos...its online and very interesting.
pisces sounds sweet
I get my sympathetic ear from my Mother,She's always a good listener and a good motivator and I'd like to make my friend feel positive by bringing forth my good words and making her feel great inside,praying to God and stuff.:)
well thats great, you sound like a really good guy
Howard
09-09-2008, 07:57 PM
well thats great, you sound like a really good guy
She told me she had an abusive boyfriend but I told her I'd treat her like a queen,never would I put my hands on any woman whatsoever,I'm more like a "stuff it in" kind of person keeping aggressiveness inside,maybe that's why I get treated like a doormat from past women,I'm too nice but there's nothing wrong with being too nice,is there? :confused: I like treating women to lunch or dinner,candy,flowers,small teddy bears or maybe a romantic evening,that's me,I'm a lover,not a fighter. :)
im sorry she was abused thats awful.
and no there is nothing wrong with nice guys, you just have to make sure you don get walked all over, but i think you know how to find a balance between those two things after having your own past relationship. i love nice guys, caring guys...i always think a relationship strives when each person gives more than he or she expects to recieve.
Howard
09-10-2008, 01:40 AM
im sorry she was abused thats awful.
and no there is nothing wrong with nice guys, you just have to make sure you don get walked all over, but i think you know how to find a balance between those two things after having your own past relationship. i love nice guys, caring guys...i always think a relationship strives when each person gives more than he or she expects to recieve.
I guess I love being nice sometimes but I would think more women want strong guys and not pansies(guys who are weak).Just never wanted to argue with women,that wasn't me,If I did,I would regret it and feel awful or hurtful.Just don't have the heart,maybe I never will.:(
you can still be nice and be strong at the sametime ya know....dont let anyone walk all over you, having a kind heart is always good and you can never go wrong with that
Howard
09-10-2008, 12:05 PM
you can still be nice and be strong at the sametime ya know....dont let anyone walk all over you, having a kind heart is always good and you can never go wrong with that
I'm trying to find the reason why I felt being stepped on,maybe the reason could be that I had money to spend or I took them out to fancy restaurants,bought them gifts sometimes.How does one know they're being stepped on (like a doormat)? :confused:
its fine that you did that stuff and still do that stuff, my boyfriend does the same things for me.....BUT......i always say thank you, i always make sure that when he does things for me i want him to know that i appreiciate it (not expect it so much). i would never want him to feel as though i am taking advantage of him, and for me vsv. anyway, i think as long as you keep your eyes open, make sure she isnt taking you for granted and appreciates all you do its fine
Howard
09-10-2008, 02:58 PM
Just about a month ago,I overheard my friend Kamika talk about to someone that she was low on cigarettes so I asked if she wanted me to buy her a pack and she said no so then later something just popped into my head that wanted me to insist and I did,later on she hugged me and said thank you,"You're a very nice guy,I Like You".:)
awww goood...! (she shouldnt be smoking though!!!!!!!)
Howard
09-10-2008, 03:00 PM
its fine that you did that stuff and still do that stuff, my boyfriend does the same things for me.....BUT......i always say thank you, i always make sure that when he does things for me i want him to know that i appreiciate it (not expect it so much). i would never want him to feel as though i am taking advantage of him, and for me vsv. anyway, i think as long as you keep your eyes open, make sure she isnt taking you for granted and appreciates all you do its fine
It's only the beginning now so I haven't done many things for her except for buying cigarettes for her and that was it.
thats fine, no need to rush it anyway
Howard
09-10-2008, 03:02 PM
awww goood...! (she shouldnt be smoking though!!!!!!!)
This would be my first girlfriend (if she allows me to be in the future) that smokes and asking her to quit,she would argue about it.:rolleyes:
Howard
09-10-2008, 03:03 PM
thats fine, no need to rush it anyway
I'm going to take my time and that's all I'll do. :)
well good look...im excited to hear about your progress
Howard
09-12-2008, 12:16 AM
well good look...im excited to hear about your progress
everybody (well almost everybody) in my workplace and that would include my buddies over at Pathmark,Her And I are almost the talk of Pathmark it's like we're the new hottest couple around there,They want me to date Kamika and take her out for coffee one day but I have to wait till she has free time.See,all this started 6 1/2 months ago when my girlfriend broke up with me over the phone and I was so desperate after that for a girl that my buddies over there were talking about dating at work and I was afraid of it but I think I'll take a risk even though I haven't done it before.
yeah might as well! and it sounds like she likes you and if you two are the hot couple of the work place convo shows that she doesnt mind being talked about either, especially when you are involved!
Howard
09-13-2008, 12:04 AM
yeah might as well! and it sounds like she likes you and if you two are the hot couple of the work place convo shows that she doesnt mind being talked about either, especially when you are involved!
Today she got to show me her painted toenails and fingernails,they were very pretty then after that she brought up her ex in conversation,hopefully this will be my opportunity to grab that moment cause we both suffered breakup losses in our lives and I wouldn't mind dating someone outside my race,It's a first for me and I'm pretty excited.:)
thats good she is opening up to you. but did she talk about her ex as if she missed him? hopefully not!
Howard
09-14-2008, 10:02 PM
thats good she is opening up to you. but did she talk about her ex as if she missed him? hopefully not!
She talked about her ex saying that she said "He always told me I was fly".
But anyway today I got to talk to her before work and I put on the y charm.women sometimes go for that,they either eat it up or slap/punch you for making the remark but she took it well and what she had said to me after that made my pulse race.:eek:
It was unbelieveable.:D
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