I need your feedback guys please!!!!!!!!!

[zz33]

I've been with this guy for almost 4 yrs now. I fell in love with him the minute i saw him. Things were great then, he respected me and treated me well. i loved him so much then but he never really loved me much but he did care for me. There were even times when he was unfaithful to me. But i let it all slide because he was everything to me. After a while i slowly began to fall out of love with him. He was never in love with me when we began dating he just found me fun to be with and somebody he cared for. Just recently, about a year ago he completley changed and starting adoring me and expressing his love to me like never before. He tells me he loves me which i believe to some extent. But things are different now. My feelings towards him have changed and i only see him as a good freind now nothing more. The other major problem is our life. He suffers from premature . It didn't bother me in the begining because i loved him no matter what but now the minute he enters he loses his . I've been patient for the past 4 years and i've supported him in everyway possible. I know he's frustrated but i'm frustrated even more since old feelings have changed and i don't feel anything for him and i don't even enjoy a second of our . I know it would devastae him if i tell him this. I've tried my best pretending that i still love him but i'm only doing this because i care for him and i dont want to hurt him. I'm just tired of everything including the lousy . I can't say that i've had one "good" since i met him and it's diminishing my libido and my emotional state. I really appreciate your feed back guys.

[MissCheivious]

I went through a relationship a little similar to this. As far as your relationship goes, it's over. You know this but you're trying to be nice about it. Staying with someone because you like them or have fun with them but you're not in love with them isn't fair to them or to yourself. Your best bet is to end it. I'm a little concerned because you said the roles between you two have switched, right? He adores you now and you used to adore him? That's pretty classic. He knows your feeling have changed or maybe he realizes what a great girl you are and wised up, either way, he's too late. Take this as a sign. If you were always the one putting effort into the relationship, why would you keep staying after your feelings have changed? I have a feeling the is the least of your problems but again, I've been there. It's not fun for anyone involved! LOL Seriously, if you don't want to be with him and you really just like him more as a friend, the best thing to do is breakup with him and not worry about his "early release" problem. If you think you want to stay with him and you want to improve your life, I suggest you talk to him. Since you guys have been together for quite awhile, I think the talk should be fairly open, right? If not, I'm not sure what to tell you. The only thing I could suggest is asking some guys (here on the forum) what to do about that! I don't really know since I'm a woman and all I have to do is basically show up. ;) Seriously, you should consider ending it with him. I've been in too many relationships just like you described and it's hard to let go. I've stayed with people for years not really loving them or knowing they didn't love me as much. It's not a healthy way to live your life. Good luck in whatever choice you make and keep us posted. :)

[eightball61]

If you are having these thoughts then its only fair that you end the relationship. He can't control the premature and you have done well accepting it but I realize that you need to feel good too and can be fustreating. I know its all to late though but have you both tried other forms like oral so he can get you off too?

As I mentioned though its all to late....and he is even to late. You had a lot of guts to take someone that is not faithful back. You had you love for him but it all faded to to the many things that happened here. Its only fair though that you both just end it and start new somewheres else. He. will be heart broken but again he is too late. He had his chance but ruined it. It has nothing to do with the though because he ruined it other ways by showing the love to late and not being faithful.

[Pamelina]

Has this BF ever sought medical help for this premature ? I'm no expert on this by any means, but it seems to me that this could sure use some professional help. Maybe there's a treatment or even some counseling out there that a man (and woman) suffering from this can turn to.

4 years is a long time--sounds very hard on you and very draining of your own ual energy. So hard to finally give up and call it quits, though, after all that time invested and patience.

Sounds like it's not going to change, though, and that you've really given it every chance possible.