need help fast.

[lostindian]

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well heres the situation, ive been in a relationship for almost 2 years next month, and the last year has been real bumpy, i have just found out that my girlfriend doesnt like me anymore and she is only with me becauce i dont want her to break up with me, also because i have in the past mentioned d probably do something stupid if she broke up with me, and that i would not stay friends with her at all. i love her to much to let her go, and now im lost as to what to do, she says she will break up one day. if any one can help please do, need all the advice i can get

[eightball61]

Sometimes you just have to accept the challenges of a relationship. You mention you did something stupid in the past that she may not like and with my thinking to what that may be you are then probably right. The real picture here though is that you "heard" she doesn't want to be with you anymore. If you didn't hear this directly from here then you both need to talk to each other and see where things stand. Its not fair to either of you continue on this relationship path with this much uncertainty. You need to know where things are and how the future stands but you will never know without a talk.

[bdtraders]

I agree with eightball, Me and my GF have been through some tough times as well, and if she ever told me that she didnt want me anymore and meant it, i would move on. I love her and the kids with all my heart but if she TOLD me that and meant it, (didnt say it in a fight or in anger) I would respect her and my own self and move on. Shes being very honest with you and even though it will hurt its better to move on and find that person that was meant for you. Who knows maybe with you out of the picture she might realize you were what she wanted, you never know.

[Rich]

Why do you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you?

As for your threats of doing something stupid if she broke up with you...what's that all about? I think that you need professional help to work through the issues that you have.

Right now your relationship is held together by your threats. Do you think that you have a good relationship or one that is loving or that will last?

I don't think so.

Why is it that you're threatening to do something stupid if she breaks up with you?

You need to let her go and then work on your mental and emotional make up. Make yourself a better person so that someone will WANT to be with you and not feel forced to stay with you.

Right now her animosity will grow, you will fight constantly and she will hate you more and more.

Rich

[eightball61]

Rich, In case you are wondering this may answer some of your questions in his other thread from yesturday.

http://www.relationshipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=341

[smackie9]

Why put up with that from her? Beat her to the punch and break up with her. No one ever thinks clearly when they are in love. Sometimes we do don't want to see the impending reality of the situation. Just thrown in the towel.

[INLOVEWITHHIM]

Sweetheart-- no woman is ever worth sacrificing who you are as a person... she is not who you are... maybe you need to take a little time and figure out more about yourself... picture your relationship 5 years from now, and she has stopped trying, you have stopped trying-- and you just muddle through everyday life... doesn't sound fun to me, or healthy for that matter... you have to decide what level to take your heartache to... I personally would use it as a chance to grow and love myself... Good luck!!