What is she thinking/talking about?

[topshelf79]

I've been broken with my ex fiance' for a few months now and we're still living together. she's already talked about falling in love with another guy but the next day she retracted and said it was limerance. Excited feeling about meeting someone*.

When we first broke up we agreed to live together until one of us can afford to move out but recently I signed the lease over to her and she's now kicking me out. What's with the inconsistencies? ladies? please have an answer; older, the wiser better please. We're both 29 and have been together 8 years and were engaged for 2.

I strongly would like to stay with her but from the things she's told me i.e. "go f--- with 10 girls" driving me to move out/on and at the same time saying things earlier like "maybe once we've had a clean break then we can consider getting back together"

do you see the two spectrums? I can go on but I think you get the general idea on what's going on

[eightball61]

You may want to check with your local laws but city's and stated have laws that may protect you if she wanted you out let's say by tomorrow. Some of these laws protect you by her allowing you 30 days or something like that.

I personally think you trying to hold onto something that just isn't there. Her words are confusing and it could either be something mental or just stress because she wants to move on. She is right though and you both do need a break away. She nor even you can't move on by you both still living together because not only it's uncomfortable for you or her to bring a guy/girl home from a date it's also going to be uncomfortable to them.

Now that she has a lease in hand ask her to give you 30 days. In the meantime if you can afford to live alone then do so. If you can't them find a male room-mate to bunker in with. Once you settle try to find yourself again. As time move on and once your ready try to date again. Don't hang on waiting for her because you'll just end up waiting and waiting with a broken heart and life is to short to wait like that.

[smackie9]

Since you have been together so long , she's having a difficult time dealing with her decision, but she does want to move on. By staying under the same roof it is just making her second guess that decision. That's why she says those things. So with that she wants you out. Take Eightball's advice and get settled somewhere else so you can move on too.

[adoodle]

I agree you should move but you should wait to do it when you know she won't be there to not have to deal with her possible confusion and anger.
This way too you can easily take what you have paid for but be sure to have reciepts handy in case she calls the police on you for burgulary, that you can prove ( for instance the washer and dryer or whatever ) are yours.
You really should move because it looks like one of these days soon, she will move, so at least if you do it first you won't be surprised by it or homeless for awhile.
Far as your relationship with her, seems it's over.