Good fiance gone bad!

[lovestinx]

My fiance and I have a boy but I alrealy have a girl. Well my fiance decided to be the man that I didn't want him to be, you know the bad type. It's been going on for almost a year and a half and i finally got the guts to kick him out. He's gone now. I want to still be with him but I know that when he was a jerk to my daughter, that was it I wasn't taking it anymore. I need some advice on how to handle my emotions I feel like crap but I know I did the right thing. Can anyone give me more advice? Or something to make me feel better? :confused:

[eightball61]

You need to see the positive here and even though they still hurt they are still positive things like:

1. you kicked him out after many chances.
2. you looked out for you
3. you looked out for your daughter
4. ect.

If this guy truelly cared for you then he would have respected your wishes. He brought it upon himself and ruined things. Latter on you will see the true nature to this and begin to realize you did the right thing. It takes time to heal all these emotions and you still want him back because you still see all the goodness he had and you are wishing for a change that won't and proven won't happen. If you were ever to take him back then take it slow and dont start things off where they left.

Right now just be a the good mother you are and care for your daughter. Do more thing with her to make up for that mistake. You first goal is to protect you and your child. When you allow a man in you state what you are looking for and always take it slow. Eventually you will come across a good guy.

[Rich]

All that you need to do is to look at your daughter.

See your little girl and KNOW that you did the right thing. She's all the motivation and advice that you need.

If he was wronging your little girl...then he needed to go.

Hopefully next time you'll make a better choice for your children in regards to a mate. Believe it or not, there is a way to see if who you're with will be the one that you'll stay with forever and I can give you advice towards that.

Good luck,

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[lovestinx]

thanks to everyone who has visited my forum and who replied i hope that i can get through this it has been a hard time. but i keep thinking that he is going to change. he acts like he has changed and he says that he has realized that he did a horable thing and he says that he wants me to take him back and that he is going to get me to regain his trust and earn my friendship back with him but i don't know if he is just saying that. i really want to take him back but i am unsure about it. i know that if i ever do take him back i think that i might regret it maybe i don't know what to do seriously give me some feedback i am so confused right now. thanks :(

[eightball61]

You got the courage to kick him out because you hated how he treated you and your daughter. To him this ought to be a wakeup call. If you were to take him back then you take it one step at a time rather picking-up the relationships where it was left off. Even though you know him you would need to start things off like you both just started dating you. Give him a slow chance to prove that change...(IF he did change). You state to him whats going to happen on the first slip up.

You know and we know you did the right thing at the moment. You priorities is yourself and your daughter. You need to find a good fit and father like to her. If he can't be that role model father then thats his fault and he lost out. Its time for him to act like a man and be a father if he wants to be with you for the future.

[Rich]

Body language and eye contact say soooooo much and only you can "see" what he is really saying.

I would trust your heart and gut. Don't let your mind try to justify or reason things out. Your first gut instinct is usually the correct choice to make in all matters. Trust it here.

Rich