Significant Other's Intentions: To Hurt?

[GemNiGem]

Has anyone ever felt that the person they were with did things to intentionally hurt them? I'm not talking about physically abusive relationships, as I think the abuser's intentions are fairly obvious...but perhaps, emotional abuse. Thinking about it, its kind of the same thing.

A man would "be" with a woman - profess his love, "try" every now and again to change his behaviors, buy gifts, etc. only to continue screwing up, cheat, and push the woman that he knows loves him, away?

I really don't get that. I've spent almost 3 years with a man, who is now also the father of my child, standing by him and going back/forth as if it were a sport. When I would be done and tell him to back off, leave me alone, continue doing what he clearly loved to do, or suggest that we be mother/father to our child - he goes that extra mile to reach out to me. And if I didn't respond, he'd just try harder...sometimes for weeks in a row. Only for me to open my heart, and arms again. Things will be good for 1 to 3 weeks, and then he'd go right back to doing the exact same thing. I don't understand him. I really don't.

This final go around, I needed to let him know that I don't think all of the things I've been through with him, i'll ever forgive him for. My heart is practically cold towards him at this point. So much anger, so much confusion - I find myself asking myself, repeatedly, why would he keep trying to be bothered with the situation at all, just to hurt the hell out of me? Simply because I let him? That's ridiculous.

[Howard]

Has anyone ever felt that the person they were with did things to intentionally hurt them? I'm not talking about physically abusive relationships, as I think the abuser's intentions are fairly obvious...but perhaps, emotional abuse. Thinking about it, its kind of the same thing.


How about cheating behind that person's back,that sort of thing took it's toll on me,eventually but years later she went back to her old ways again.:mad:

[Spaaron]

Sounds a bit like that's the way he is, he goes the extra mile to get satisfaction for himself? Then when he meets someone new or has someone else he goes back to his old ways? When he goes back to his old ways what exactly is it he does that hurts your feelings? You should leave him, guys like him are difficult to handle and are sometimes too stubborn to tell the truth and reasons as to why they do that. Have you talked to him straight? Walk away from this guy, he's no use to you raise your child will make your life much more enjoyable.