Finding love--but where?

[Pamelina]

I don't see how people meet. Everyone seems to frown on people looking at bars and nightclubs but I have yet to hear of any more likely place. I don't drink, tho, and I hate cigarette smoke around me.

Last man I dated was a neighbor (and you know how that went). The man before him was introduced to me by our hair stylist/cutter. And way before that I met a man at an eco-feminist spiritual group--these eco people were great and the men were intelligent but they all left town to go back east.

It certainly is tough; everyone wants this but no one seems to have figured out how to meet someone of the opposite in a healthy, comfortable, enjoyable atmosphere. I feel like I'd have more luck winning some lotto money--seriously.

Personal ads scare me, too--what if the guy has done time in the slam--or is actually still in there?

[beesting]

Pam,

Maybe you're looking too hard... Maybe you should let them look for you... I don't know if that is being realistic, but I believe that when the time is right, Mr right will surely find you. Just go with the flow... don't plan on these things... things do happen for a reason... but where ever you go, be yourself...

[Pamelina]

If you knew me, you'd know I'm guilty of not trying at all! My job doesn't afford me meeting any men (women's type of environment) and I don't go out, either. I am always having family and people tell me I should really make the effort to get out at least a little. But I don't want to wait for a man to come along and choose me--I'd like to be a little more proactive on my own behalf with this, for a change, tho I don't even know where to start.

And taking a class doesn't appeal to me because I am still experiencing school burnout after graduating.

So I'm open to suggestions, if they're out there!

[eightball61]

Love just kinda happens.....My girlfriend fell into my lap and at the time I wasn't even looking for anyone. Its really wierd how this all happens. Throughout my life I never spent time trying to meet girls or getting numbers. I was a big flirt but never took it beyond that. When I did get girlfriends it was the spare of the moment thing when things just fell into place.

I personally see no point in trying to hunt for a love through bars, ads, or the net. If something fell into place then I would take the opportunity. I do encourage those to maybe try doing things that they like to maybe meet someone. Like if you have an interest for something or a hobby then try to seek other with that same interest with area group gatherings or whatever.

[bdtraders]

Just live your life as YOU see fit and your MR Right will knock on your door. I have NEVER asked a woman out, not cause im all that but because I am shy and really didnt want the rejection. But i have had a few relationships in my life so far most a few years in length if not longer. They all approached me wondering why I hadnt been like any other guy and hit on them.
My best friend a few years ago asked me the same question you are asking, becuase he didint like bars and the web and all that. I told him to just focus on himself and his job and they would come to him. Sure enough he calls me weekly telling me off a new woman that has showed an interest in him.
Trust me, guys notice you, and when the right one comes around god will give you both a reason to open up communication to each other.

[Diablo]

There is no hard and fast place to meet a good man. There are some guidelines to meeting one with some compatability.

Want a rich guy? Start hanging out at a golf course. Golf requires the combination of money and time to pursue. Not all golfers are rich, but most are at least comfortable and the men tend to vastly outnumber women at golf courses.

Briany guy: art museums, astronomy clubs, chess clubs are a few good places to meet a brainiac.

Man of good moral character: church. However, the typical christians will outnumber the true christians.

Man who can cook. This one is obvious; any of the good grocery stores.

A few don'ts.

Do not hunt at a casino if you don't want a gambler.

Do not check out the guys at a military base if you don't want a domineering guy.



Well, I pulled an all-nighter last night and just can't think of another good one right now; however, you should have the general idea and the rest of it is in my sig.

[sagg22]

It's cheesy as can be but love always finds you when you are least expecting it or not looking at all. That is how it has always happend with me at least.
I don't think that there is one perfect place to find the right one.
I have dated guys from church who have turned out to be complete assholes.
I have dated guys from bars that were sweet as can be and very respectful.
I think that if you are being you and are open minded and willing to give people a chance you can find people almost anywhere. Probably in the place you least expect it.

[Howard]

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