Just curious ...

[dsoul]

Here's a question that's been plauging my head. Are there still young would-be lovers in the world out there who still believe in long distance love, or is it something most view as impossible?

[eightball61]

Good question ;)


I believe that long distant can work but it takes two faithful, patient, and caring people to make it work. Being away from a love can trigger thoughts about being with someone else but people that are denicated will stick it through the end without being unfaithful or ending the relationship.

There is a lot of long distant relationships happening today and most of it because the meeting of others through the web. For years people delt with it on loved ones in the Military, gone to school, or for whatever reason. Some people have done good with the distant thing and other haven't.

My person view though is mixed on this situation. IF my girlfriend had to leave then I would try to stick it out with her. I hate to lose her but we would have to do what we have to do to make eachother happy. LDW relationships can setup insecurities but as I stated before it takes alot of trust, communication, and being patient.

[dsoul]

You certainly do have a strong point there, eightball. Sometimes when I come up on the net, trying to get in touch with some lady who lives far away from me, I'm only trying to get a friend, but often it doesn't work out.

But it's best been patient about it.

[eightball61]

Its ok to meet a friend over the net and allow things to build but I believe in relationship with physical attraction and touch also. Online relationships are ok but you have to have that part in seeing them and being able to touch and hold that partner. If you are not able to do that then to me there is no point to having a relationship.

[dsoul]

All right, what about meeting someone online, through the net. Think that would help a little?

[eightball61]

If you are meeting someone offline then I suggest the first meets be in a public setting. Dont go private until you both are ready and feel comfortable. Its always better to be safe than sorry in these situations. You can meet a lot nice people online but there are some people that are one of a kind if you know what I mean :p

[CalistaClap]

I think it's alot easier when 2 people have met fell in love, and something happens, one of them moves, etc, and they are in a LDR.

But to start one off being in a LDR, is possible, just takes alot more work.

[dsoul]

[QUOTE=CalistaClap;2477]But to start one off being in a LDR, is possible, just takes alot more work.[QUOTE]

You certinaly do have a strong point there ... it takes really hard work, and that's if both of them are sure willing to stay the long haul for it.

[Jamaicangirl]

Here's a question that's been plauging my head. Are there still young would-be lovers in the world out there who still believe in long distance love, or is it something most view as impossible?I think if one does they are setting up themselves to be hurted when they seek and find love on the net. But, if it was a relationship that "was" and ended up in a LDR then it may have a chance, a slim one. I dont think LDRs are healthy at all. I wouldnt encourage them.

[dsoul]

I think if one does they are setting up themselves to be hurted when they seek and find love on the net. But, if it was a relationship that "was" and ended up in a LDR then it may have a chance, a slim one. I dont think LDRs are healthy at all. I wouldnt encourage them.

In that case, you're speaking from your own perspective.

[Jamaicangirl]

In that case, you're speaking from your own perspective.
And many more I personally know.

[dsoul]

And many more I personally know.

We make our histories from our future, not from our past. If ever I were to believe all the stuff of negativity I've heard and seen and recieved concerning women, I doubt if I'd be thinking about still wanting to date another.

[Jamaicangirl]

We make our histories from our future, not from our past. If ever I were to believe all the stuff of negativity I've heard and seen and recieved concerning women, I doubt if I'd be thinking about still wanting to date another.Pardon me? Isn't the future yet to be? I really dont understand you make something out of "nothing" as the future is "nothing" not happening as yet...:confused:

anyways, I think I understand what you are trying to say...I wont get into that though as I really think the total opposite. :)

[draconis]

I think if one does they are setting up themselves to be hurted when they seek and find love on the net. But, if it was a relationship that "was" and ended up in a LDR then it may have a chance, a slim one. I dont think LDRs are healthy at all. I wouldnt encourage them.

Although much slimmer of a chance. My best friend from high school found a girl online 1000 miles away. They are happily married. My second cousin was the same way and next year will be seven years married. So it does happen.

draconis

[Jamaicangirl]

Although much slimmer of a chance. My best friend from high school found a girl online 1000 miles away. They are happily married. My second cousin was the same way and next year will be seven years married. So it does happen.

draconisWell, good for them, I wish them a lifetime of happiness and togetherness.:rolleyes: