My 19yrd daughter

[simplymyself]

Let me start this out, my 19yrd old daughter ran away to Ny 4 months ago to marry an Army Mp. Throughout this time since being up there she has called me several times crying because hes mean to her, cheating ect. The last time she called me was 2 weeks ago saying that he tells he he hates her all the time and wants her to leave. She also said he has been drinking and some girl is texting him messages. I sent her a bus tickek and she is now home. My problem and stress is she is still talking to him when he calls her, which isnt often. A few days ago he told her that he had a girl over and she was staying the night. The past two days they have been talking more, him saying he doesnt want a divorce and that he wants to see her again before he leaves for IRAQ. I am so ready to pull my hair out over all the stress this is causeing my family now. She keeps telling me all these bad things he is doing then the next breath how she doesnt know what she wants to do.....Im losing it.....One last piece of ino...he told her that he married her for a BAH..more for being married...any help would be greatly appreciated

[smackie9]

Keep communication open with her. She is very confused and sadly can easily be manipulated. It might be a good time to get her into some counseling.

[eightball61]

Let me start this out, my 19yrd old daughter ran away to Ny 4 months ago to marry an Army Mp. Throughout this time since being up there she has called me several times crying because hes mean to her, cheating ect. The last time she called me was 2 weeks ago saying that he tells he he hates her all the time and wants her to leave. She also said he has been drinking and some girl is texting him messages. I sent her a bus tickek and she is now home. My problem and stress is she is still talking to him when he calls her, which isnt often. A few days ago he told her that he had a girl over and she was staying the night. The past two days they have been talking more, him saying he doesnt want a divorce and that he wants to see her again before he leaves for IRAQ. I am so ready to pull my hair out over all the stress this is causeing my family now. She keeps telling me all these bad things he is doing then the next breath how she doesnt know what she wants to do.....Im losing it.....One last piece of ino...he told her that he married her for a BAH..more for being married...any help would be greatly appreciated


What kind of parent are you for just sitting there and just listening to your child??? Any parent who cared would find a way to go help thier confused child and bringthem to safety.








To me, I'm judging this thread to be a joke. I realize this goes on everyday and people get caught because they are mentally abused into these situations. A parent is a parent though and even though they'd be lost & confused they would do anything to bring thie 19 yr back to safety. God, I hope I'm right here but if not then I do pray it all works out well for her in the end.

[simplymyself]

I really wish this was a joke, but sadly it isnt. My daughter has moved out now after being told so by her *husband* she is still talking to hem. She is now with her father who doesnt care what happens in her life. His motto, she is an adult and can do what she wants. She is very easily manipulated and wont seek any type of professional help. I have tried everything to help her. Her husband doesnt want her talking to me now because I dont play games with her and tell her how it is. Lastly I am a very good parent, I havent just sat here doing nothing. I have talked to my daugher trying to get her to understand that her situation isnt right and what he is doing to her is abuse. She agrees with me at the time but after talking to him....its all lost....I have met many ppl who are married to soldiers on different boards. You would be suprised how often this happens to young nieve women...Thank you for all your feedback.

[smackie9]

Your husband is right...she is an adult and she is the one that is in control of her destiny, positive or negative. You are a parent and want to protect your child....you have done your job, now it's time for you to step back a bit. If she comes to you for support, that's fine, but stop pushing the issue with her, she will only push away.

[eightball61]

I really wish this was a joke, but sadly it isnt. My daughter has moved out now after being told so by her *husband* she is still talking to hem. She is now with her father who doesnt care what happens in her life. His motto, she is an adult and can do what she wants. She is very easily manipulated and wont seek any type of professional help. I have tried everything to help her. Her husband doesnt want her talking to me now because I dont play games with her and tell her how it is. Lastly I am a very good parent, I havent just sat here doing nothing. I have talked to my daugher trying to get her to understand that her situation isnt right and what he is doing to her is abuse. She agrees with me at the time but after talking to him....its all lost....I have met many ppl who are married to soldiers on different boards. You would be suprised how often this happens to young nieve women...Thank you for all your feedback.


I apologize for misjudging your case. Smackie is right though and its tough as a parent but you do need to take a step back. How come she hasn't moved back to you? I'm sure she is confused by her husband, her dad, and you all given different directions. She now needs to take a step back and think things through. Hopefully she goes in the path you wish however she will learn by the choice she makes.