Girlfriend withholding

[Chinkster]

I recently had a converstion with my gf about why our life has come to a halt (Halt being six times in 2 months which at 22 is very unacceptable considering how things started out). She told me that she felt it was necessary to withhold from me because she has seen other girls let guys have wth them often and the guy became comfortable and never moved on in the relationship. Considering all that I have done for her and done to make our reltionship flourish I became very angry because I never withheld anything from her because I was afraid she would get comfortable and not move on in the relatioship. I feel like she is using to manipulate me into getting married at some point in the future and one thing I hate is being manipulated. Why would anyone do this and is it worth dealing with or should I just move on to someone who won't be manipulative

[ello]

Maybe she thinks you are not serious about her? Maybe she thinks you are using her, and she wants to be sure that you are for real. Maybe she's afraid that you will get bored of her. You need to be open and honest with her. Ask her what the problem is. How does that saying go?? about why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

[jan]

You should treat the girl like a princess and she'll give it up just enough so you don't explode in your sleep:) I think twice a month is just fine for a 22 yr old. Many 22yr olds go 5 or 6 months at a time without. Now if you are married and you only get it twice a month, you got a problem. Count yourself lucky. Count yourself even more lucky that she isn't holding out until your wedding day. Try to be a little more understanding. If all else fails ask her for a handjob :rolleyes:

[bv3qc]

one thing i found interesting in your post is that she says that her friends told her that blablabla boys get comfortable and don't want to go further in the relaitonship quote...

If she was my gf, I would ask her what she thinks... Does she let her friends rule your relatuionship or you both are trying to write your own story... In my eyes, i would really confront her on this because having that few in a stable relationship with someone that i loved... that would be unacceptable, i would feel un-needed and not wanted in the intimacy... but that is just me...

if that makes you feel in such ways, you have to tell her. see what she has to say, maybe she doesn't have a ual drive like you have, that could be a possibility but you won't know it until you confront her about it...

good luck
phil

[GreenEyedLeo197]

I don't think that it is right for her to withold anything from you. You are both in the relationship together. Are you sure that she isn't with anyone else? Just curious... You need to tell her that her friends are not the one that are in the relationship, she is. And...there is alot of other things she can be doing to you. isn't the only way to turn a man on!! http://relationshipforums.com/forums/images/icons/icon12.gif