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markcoles
06-02-2009, 01:15 AM
Hi ive got a new problem in my current relationship, we have been together about 9 months now and we moved intogether about a month after we started dating (bad move I know) and im begining to feel trapped by her, shes very clingy and i no longer feel like I have any space. Shes wantin to be with me 24 hours a day and even was considering leaving her job so she could do this. Im about to start some film classes at uni which she was very opposed to me doing because "i might meet some friends and forget about her" or "run off with some film chick" and she doesnt want me spending time out to study because she needs me. Her mother died a couple years ago so im guessing this has something to do with it. Im wanting to move out but not sure how to go about it or how she will react or what she will do. She doesnt have many friends because shes rather anti-social and even trys to stop me seeing my friends so theres noone that can support her when I do leave.
eightball61
06-02-2009, 09:36 AM
Simple term: Communication. Why is it such a hard words for couples to put in use? Is it the fear of another reactions, is it because people need communication 101 class's to learn? really, why is is sooo hard to communicate????


Grow some balls on that so-called hairy sac of yours and let her know what you're feeling...If you don't then you're just leading her mind to beleive that this is ok. This may be who she is though so then at that point its up to you to be fair to yourself or drag on the non-happiness.
Howard
06-02-2009, 12:32 PM
Maybe it's best that you talk to her on a one-one basis and explain how you feel.
markcoles
06-02-2009, 09:37 PM
one problem with that, everytime i do try to talk to her she crys and then sits there ignoring me.
Howard
06-02-2009, 11:33 PM
one problem with that, everytime i do try to talk to her she cries and then sits there ignoring me.

Well then she should stop the crying,your girl should just understand your situation.
eightball61
06-03-2009, 12:10 PM
one problem with that, everytime i do try to talk to her she crys and then sits there ignoring me.

*Requote from original post on thread*


This may be who she is though so then at that point its up to you to be fair to yourself or drag on the non-happiness.
Howard
06-03-2009, 12:25 PM
You could either put up with her whining or just talk to her about it.