Advice, or your opinions plz...

[StarCrossdLover]

I've been broken up with my Sig. other for about 2 monthes now. The reasons are still unclear to me...but thats not why im here. I need advice, or even your opinions on what the hell is happening. Everytime I am almost moved on from her, or doing really good, something happens, she tell people that i talk to things so that theyll get back to me, spreads rumors that shes with my best friend though he denies it, and plays insane head games with me. Its not like i don't try. I have cut off contact with her, but shell get a hold of me and talk to me like an old friend. The other night in fact, she was talking to me, and after a long series of me playing indifference, she told me I had a chance, but its gone. Why would she say that? I don't know if shes doing this with an agenda, and im not even sure she see's what shes doing to me. But apart of me really thinks she does, and thats why it hurts. I have no idea what to do...im stuck in this town for about 6 more monthes then i can leave. Dating other girls is almost impossible, i stayed at community college for her (well other reasons too, i see my folly, no need to point that out). I just need to hear what mature, knowledgable people thing, and would do. This small town gossip and constant hearing about her is killing me. Please respond soon!!!

[eightball61]

As we know what she is doing is immature. She is playing these games to make herself look good and cool. It hurts you because you still care about her in many ways. I know you are stuck in that town and you will have to make the best of it for the next 6 months. A few things you can try is maybe getting active at your college with local groups or something to stay active and also meet people you never talked to before.

This is a tough situation to be in and you know that you need to get away from it. Its hard to ignore but you have to stick it out for 6 more months. If this becomes to hard then maybe you will have to move away from that circle of friends and try some of the things I mentioned in the first paragraph.

[MissCheivious]

Best thing to do is to ignore her attempts to get into your life. If you're serious about it, you'll make it clear that you don't want her calling you. She's only being disrespectful because you're letting her. When she calls, tell her you have to go and you'll call her later and then never call back. Doing that about two times should give her the message. As far as rumors, tell the people who are telling you things about her to shut up! It's easy. Tell them, "Hey, you know, we broke up and I don't need to hear any stuff about her, I wish her well so let's drop it." See? It's polite and to the point. If those people can't get the point, tell them to shut the hell up. That usually works too! ;) If you're serious, you have to take control and show her you mean business. She can't play mind games with you if you don't pay attention to her. Don't worry about not dating other people. It will make her feel like even more of a fool if you're not with anyone and you still don't want to be with her. That's an ego bruiser. Good luck :)