fiance changed for the worse

[sabrina3090]

Hi everyone! Well I have been with my fiance for about 2 years now. We have a 4 1/2 month old baby girl together. He moved in with me and my parents after the baby was born to help me take care of her. about a week after he moved in, he asked me to marry him. Well, everything was going great until about 2 weeks ago. He started lying to me about everything he was doing, when he had to work, what he was going to do....everything. i know he isn't cheating on me because everything he lies to me he is always with one of his friends that i don't like. Last week he mentioned moving out living back at home again. I don't want him to move out b/c i want him here with me to help raise his daughter. i want us to be a family an her to know her dad and see him everyday. This week we have started him staying here 4 days out of the week and staying at home 3 days. the main problem is the way he has been acting lately and the sudden urge to lie to me about everything. i asked him what was wrong and he said he just didnt like living here anymore and he wanted to live at home until we got married. we arent planning on getting married for another 2 or more years though. I just don't know what to do. I can't take the way he has been acting and all the lies and everything else. I love him and i know he loves me and i want us to try and work this out for the baby and for us. he won't talk about anything though, and everything i say to him he just ignores. i need help b/c i need our family to stay together. any advice would greatly be appreciated! Thanks [FONT=Comic Sans MS]Hi everyone! Well I have been with my fiance for about 2 years now. We have a 4 1/2 month old baby girl together. He moved in with me and my parents after the baby was born to help me take care of her. about a week after he moved in, he asked me to marry him. Well, everything was going great until about 2 weeks ago. He started lying to me about everything he was doing, when he had to work, what he was going to do....everything. i know he isn't cheating on me because everything he lies to me he is always with one of his friends that i don't like. Last week he mentioned moving out living back at home again. I don't want him to move out b/c i want him here with me to help raise his daughter. i want us to be a family an her to know her dad and see him everyday. This week we have started him staying here 4 days out of the week and staying at home 3 days. the main problem is the way he has been acting lately and the sudden urge to lie to me about everything. i asked him what was wrong and he said he just didnt like living here anymore and he wanted to live at home until we got married. we arent planning on getting married for another 2 or more years though. I just don't know what to do. I can't take the way he has been acting and all the lies and everything else. I love him and i know he loves me and i want us to try and work this out for the baby and for us. he won't talk about anything though, and everything i say to him he just ignores. i need help b/c i need our family to stay together. any advice would greatly be appreciated! Thanks

[smackie9]

Move out of your parents. Find a place on your own or together. Maybe things will change then. He needs to grow up and smell the responsibility.

[eightball61]

Hi Sabrina,

This is a tough situation to be in and if he wants to continue the partner ship then he has to change. My question is: how do you know about the lying?

I am not going to rule out any possibilities at this time so it gets your mind wondering. The main focus shoudl be to get him back on track. He on the other hand is the one that can do this. You can help guide by keeping tabs but he is loosing your trust rather fast and that will make everything much worse down the road.

If he wants to have a life where he can still go out with friends then he needs to cut the lying. All he is setting up for is being homebound. If he is cheating then it would be wise for him to stop since you are catching on.

I know you want to marry this man and dont want him to leave but he needs to make a choice. Having a life of lying and arguing is not healthy for the little girl to witness. As a parent you need to make the right decision. If he was to leave then she still would have a father but he wouldn't be around. Its his decision on what he makes off things and right now he is nto being role model type.