Sadiee
07-06-2009, 07:58 AM
My best friend and her boyfriend have come down for two weeks this summer to visit me, it is the first time I've seen them in about 4 years. I have a boyfriend living here and we have a very stable relationship- we've been dating for 4 months and haven't had a single argument. He's talked to my best friend once before on MSN, but thats it. Now ever since they've arrived here, he seems to feel that he is invited to everything we do. Not that I don't like being around him- its just that I want to have some time with just my best friend and my other friend who have come to visit me! I feel sort of like he's intruding by expecting to hang out with the three of us every single time I'm with them, and its been annoying me a lot. I feel annoyed with him for doing this- a first for me. :\ I tell him we're going into town, and he goes "Oh, what time should I meet you guys?"
I mean, they made this trip to see me. I hope I don't sound overly selfish or naive here, but he wasn't even friends with them. He hardly knew them at all. The only reason he does is because of me... and its just so frustrating! I liked how me and my two friends were a trio. We're really tight and its really bothering me that he has to intrude into our trio... I can't seem to have any separate time for friends.
He is really, really sensitive and I know telling him that his constant need to be present with me and my friends (who are only here for two weeks) is annoying will really upset him, so I'm going to leave it. What I want to know is if I'm being reasonable. I'm kind of at a biased standpoint here so I need to know if I need to slap myself in the face and get over it or if I actually do have a right to be annoyed with him for this.
Help? Advice?
Thank you all so much in advance. :)
I mean, they made this trip to see me. I hope I don't sound overly selfish or naive here, but he wasn't even friends with them. He hardly knew them at all. The only reason he does is because of me... and its just so frustrating! I liked how me and my two friends were a trio. We're really tight and its really bothering me that he has to intrude into our trio... I can't seem to have any separate time for friends.
He is really, really sensitive and I know telling him that his constant need to be present with me and my friends (who are only here for two weeks) is annoying will really upset him, so I'm going to leave it. What I want to know is if I'm being reasonable. I'm kind of at a biased standpoint here so I need to know if I need to slap myself in the face and get over it or if I actually do have a right to be annoyed with him for this.
Help? Advice?
Thank you all so much in advance. :)