Being the Other Man

[Xaronasr]

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 4 months now, and she's always had this online friend, and I never really trusted it. I assumed they were exes, but really good friends. Me and my girl live in NJ, he lives in Florida. Recently, his profile said that he was coming to NJ soon. I started getting paranoid, because I figured, as good friends as they were, they might still have feelings for each other, and if they ever met up, he might try to get with her again, or something like that. So after awhile, I couldn't stand the confusion, and I made a fake Facebook and added him. Part of his profile information says that when he comes to NJ, he's going to meet up with the second person on his Top Friends, which of course is my girlfriend. So I start talking with him, as another person, and I bring the conversation over to the girl, and I ask if that's his girlfriend. He said yes. I then asked how long they've been together, and he said 9 months, in a long distance relationship.

My problem is, I want to ask her if this is true, but I know I'm going to look terrible for taking it that far, I'll probably look like a stalker and that I don't trust her. But on the other hand, if i sit back and let it happen, I don't think I could look at her the same way again. I still love her, and I want to be with her, even if this is true, but I don't know what to do. Help? =/

[eightball61]

You did what you had todo to get your answers so now that you have the truth in hand it's now time to present her your findings. I know you have feelings for her still but this won't go over well and expect a breakup but for the good. If you stay with her to work it out you'll forever have insecurities which isn't fair to yourself.