Passion; help me with it as I seem to be lacking it..

[Devil]

Hi there,

Now I'm here with a new problem. Passion. All small things have basically been cleared out between us by way of arguments and fights and we were again going to break up.

But now new things have come up, which leads me to seeking your advice. When I met her, I didn't kiss her. Yet, she loved me, and we took our next steps and ended up marrying. I never really kissed her, pulled her towards me passionately and all that. Our was always just , no passion in there.

I know when I met other girls I kiss them, make out and all that.. don't know why it wasn't there with my wife. I kept blaming her oral hygiene, but I don't think that was it. So, what could it be, and how could I fire it up and bring passion in me?

She's losing her passion for me (almost lost it I think) because I am not passionate with her. So, I really need to get this squared!

Please help!

[eightball61]

I really see a deeper issue here after re-reading your threads and you remind me of someone I know.

You're "you" nothing will ever change that. I'm willing to bet that you speak to yourself a lot, daydream, stress, anxiety, trouble sleeping, ect.

Point is you worry to much. Nothing you can do can change this about you but you can try to control it mentally or see a doctor to see what you can do. I mention this because on the course you're on the relationship will end and end for good.

It's ok to let her take charge of some things too. You've put to much owener ship on the relationship of taking care of things she now seems like you her father. With all this added up this has gone into the examples to why she says sorry for breaking a plate, passion is dead, ect.

You rule the family and thats it but its doesn't work this way. It's great you see and and you wan to change. This is a big step and I do hope it works out well for you. We are here though :)

[starship]

my ex and i wasnt attracted to each other but fell in love with each other's personalities. so my response to you is are you attracted to your wife.
another thing is some people dont mess well together. for example i had a boyfriend and the passion in wasnt there. but my current boyfriend can just touch me and i can be stimulated. everything he does to me is magical.
i can tell you when i was in a relationship with my ex who wasnt attracted to me, i felt dead because he didnt have any passion in our bedroom.