Does time really heal all wounds?

[DJOne]

I'm hoping to get some feedback from some people that are in a similiar situation I have found myself in. My wife decided a little over a year ago that I was no longer the one for her. What brought on these feelings (in her words) was my work schedule, lack of good communication, and what I did in my spare time. But, when one asks all the smart relationship people what the signs of a spouse having an affair are she might as well been the starring role in many books pertaining to that subject. I did bluntly ask her if she was cheating on me and the reply was that very un-believable "no" thats makes your stomach go nuts with the "holy S..T shes cheating on me" feeling. Not ever getting a confirmation on my assumptions I sucked it up and made some changes that brought us back together stronger than ever before. So with that said, here is my issue. The woman CHEATED on me. And now she is living this very happy life with me and the kids and could not be happier. I love the life we have also but can not get over the fact that she CHEATED on me. Will this ever go away or am I doomed to live with the resentment??

[eightball61]

You're DOOMED...lol

Just Kidding!!! It does take time. I mean hearache will always be there but you need to push yourself in order to learn to move on to. Have you tried dating again?

[starship]

what you did was a wonderful thing, you saved your marriage, you made the changes to keep your family together and happy.
she was probably so miserable so she step out on the marriage. she shouldve told you in the beginning how she felt.
moving on, i seen so many men stuck on something like this vs. a women copes with it better. even the statics shows that a man is likely to leave if the wife cheats rather than vise versa.
i think that you should try to let it go, your probably better off that things turned out this way vs. your family leaving you. so concentrate on your happy family, and congratulations for beating the odds.

[adoodle]

Time does not heal wounds, only acceptance can heal. The thing about that is it often takes time for healing, so some people think its TIMR that heals, but actually its them just coming to terms with the situation.
The more you work on changing what you can and accepting the rest, the easier and faster healing will be for you.

[Rich]

At some piont you're going to have to address the 500 pound gorrilla in the room and that's your feeling that she cheated on you. You feel that she did and has lied to you. You're not gettign over it and it will keep eating at you.

You need to raise the issue again. At an opportune time, say to her that your marriage is going great and you love that, but something is bothering you and it's hard to move forward without further clarification.

Then state that you felt that she cheated on you and all fo the reasons why. Then ask her to be totally honest with you and if she did.