Need Adive on my relationship b4 it ends

[froggy21f]

Hello everyone.. i want to share to yall my long distance realationship and hope that someone can give me some advice about what im doing wrong....


Well me and this guy met off the internet.. and we have been talking.. well we fell in love with eath other, well there was some lies that was told to me about his age .. im 21 and he told me that he just turned 18 ... well it came out to be that he was 16 and just turned 17.. im not to worried about the fact of his age b/c im inlove with him.. it was the fact that he thought he had to lie to me.. his reason for doing this was b/c he said he did not to scare me off b/c at that time he had feelings for me.. well so i said alright thats kool but im having the problem of throwing up in his face that he lied to me... Well im having the problem trusting him b/c of that.. and the fact of people calling or telling me off the internet that he is cheating on me... But i dont know if i should beleive.. i confront him on it all the time and he tells me that hes not doing anything b/c he really loves.. i want to beleive him b/c he is the first guy that i have ever been with to call my parents and talk to them.. without me being on the phone with him... and he has never met my parents.. He keeps asking me baby.. can we 3 way and call your mom.. it feels so good to hear that from him it makes me think that he is telling the truth about not cheating and that he loves me but it never fells when i start to beleive i allow myself to listen to other people telling me stuff... He told me tonight on the phone that i was pushing him away b/c i seem to throw the lieing thing in his face.. I really want to be with him .. i love him so much.. but i know if i contiune to let my self beleive other stuff.. and contiune to not trust what he is doing.. then its not going to last.... Please if yall read this Help me i feel that thist relationship is goin down hill real fast.... Thanks

[missy1985]

have you two actually ever met up?

seems a bit wierd to me, i think you need to get yourself a relationship off the net love, no offence though seriously, but if its a long distance thing you never know what he could be upto.

L x

[eightball61]

This is a good reason why I dont believe in online relationships unless the relationship can carry outside of the net like actually seeing eachother. Stats show that a good percentage of users at least lie about one thing because they want to make themselves look good and worthy.

Trust is very important to any relationship. You are at the age of 21 and you can be going out to an adult place and meet up with someone your age. I am 23 myself and my GF is 17. Our relationship though is not off the internet. Sure I can meet people my age but our relationship is not just based on words.

I am not knocking the age difference because its all about personal preference. What you need to look into is how you can turn this internet relationship into something more.

Do you see a future between you two?

Relationships work with trust and good communication but you also have to have physical touch also. Some people can work out internet relationships but my opinion differs. IF you see you can make it work then go forth but right now you are having a hard time trusting him and you are hearing other things. You choice is to believe him or don't...whats your choice?

[missy1985]

my thought exactly, i could of wrote a big essay like you too but im sleepy hehe :p

[froggy21f]

Yeah i totally agree about the physcial touch.. i dont think i could be with him if i knew that i was never goin to see him ya know.. but im giong back to my home town and state.. in june and he lives like 30 mins away so that im not worried about b/c that will be there when i get home.. its just the now thing we are having a prob with .. if i can learn how to make that work then when i get home i think it should be alright.. im just needing help hell i dont know what im doing....

[eightball61]

When I met my girlfriend she lied about her age because she figured if she was older then I would seek the interest. One way or another she was to young at the time but I still carried out a friendship. When she turned 16 we work onto making things work and we are still together after a year and a half. You both can make it work if you allow it to. You can try to see past this lie if you lie or you may not choose to. If you dont then it will be hard to make things work. There is much worser things to lie about but still he didn't put on a good impression.

[froggy21f]

Thanks for the advice.. eightball... i think i will do that and try to make it work.. that is what im wanting to do.. thank you soo much..

[eightball61]

No problem and we are here anytime :o Its easy to forgive but hard to forget. Just give it time and see what happens. At least you can look at it and say " At least I gave it a try".....

[valueprep]

If it is truly a long distance relationship, and you feel uncertain about it's future and his possible philandering ways then it needs to be snipped sooner then later! Move forward "I know you say you love him", but if your not at least into your 20s and more serious about your relationships then your chances with any opposite is seriously limited considering the movement of younger people after school.
Please take the time to smell the flowers and not get too caught up in a relationship, especially a long distance one at that.

Sincerely,
Brian Maloney,
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