Need your valuable advice guys!!!

[ronfq]

Month ago, I saw some girl who was working at some place, and I really like her. So, 7 days ago, I asked her out, but she told me she got BF, and did not accept. It seems that she is kind of really shy and quite. when I talk to her, she is so nervous and her face becomes as red as red. I can't say she isn't interested in me because I can see that her eyes are always on me when we meet. Yesterday, I went to her and asked if she has changed her mind or not. But, she told me she hasn't. So, when I was there, I could see that her eyes were at me. but because of her shy personality, she just can't talk to me or even look at me. So, here I am, little bit confused. What shall I Do now??? Should I keep asking her if she has changed her mind or not??? How should I appraoch her??? I need your little advice!!! Thanks guys!!! :confused:

[eightball61]

Her reactions are triggering your brain with different thoughts. She may turn red because she could be flattered or just embarressed. She did tell you though that she had a boyfriend and twice that she is not interest. The point I am getting at its time to give up. If you want a future chance or potential frienship you dont want to continue to bug her. Its time to take a step back and try to move on.

Work relationships are also a hazard. It can work for some but others its a hard thing to do. The only time I am for a work relationship is if its in a big firm and you both hardley see eachother. If you both have a fight your employer doesn't need to have that at work. At work you are there to preform a task and keep your mind on that only. I figured I would through this is for a little thought to you and hopefully you can think through all of this and realize what is best.

[Rich]

Maybe her eyes say something, but her words said something different. She's dating someone and turned you down. She faithful, which is a good thing to know if she ever does break up with that guy and you two go out.

My advice is to find someone else. If she really wants to be with you, she will. Maybe just now she's physically attracted to you. Nothing wrong with window shopping.

Just let her know that you're interested and that if she ever breaks up with her BF, that you'd love to go out with her. Leave it at that.

Rich

[ronfq]

This is what I am trying to say Guys!!! If I leave her alone, and wait her to come to me, she probably will not come up to me. She deosn't have the guts to come up and talk to me. I don't know what's the problem. She seems to be okay with other people, when it comes to me, she become so nervous.
Anyhow, she might be lieing about having BF.

Okay! so there is more to it. Yesterday, when I went there again, her friend was looking and smiling at me constantly. I was sitting across the room looking at her, and it seemed that her friend was persuading her to come up to me, but she was little nervous. She kept avoiding her, though they were at my sight. I also saw them talking outside, laughing with each other. In the end, her friend asked me a lighter, and I saw her friend trying to make her come up to me and return my lighter. So, what's this mean?????

[eightball61]

So, what's this mean?????

It means what she told you a month ago....She has a boyfriend and not interested...time to give up.

[CalistaClap]

No matter how shy, if she has a b/f and is declining, then don't keep pressuring her.

Some people are just naturally shy, and get nervous easily, but that doesn't mean she has feelings for you.

I would give up and move on, she has told you how it is.

[MissCheivious]

Her friend and her were probably giggling and acting funny because you asked her out. I'm sure she told her friend about it and her friend is probably teasing her. I know you really want this girl to be single and interested but you're looking too hard for signs. Most girls don't say they have a b/f and decline a date politely unless they do have a b/f or they're not interested. Either way, she won't be going out with you. She might be happy you asked her out and she might like you too but, she has a b/f. Wait it out if you really want to go out with her. Make sure she sees you and stuff like that but don't ask her out again. Even is she's really shy, she now knows you like her and her chances of you shooting her down are slimmer so she'll be more inclined to ask you out or take you up on your offer if she does become single. Good luck. :)

[ronfq]

I Don't Care If They Laugh At Me Or Make A Joke Out Of It. Though, u guys are right, all The Things I Know About Her Came From Only Twice Meeting Experiences. I Only Know Her Name From Her Nametag.

But, Okay, Let's Look At This Situation From Positive Perspective. Let's Say She Is Really Shy And Afraid To Go Out With Me Due To Both Her Sensitive Personality And Some Personal Issues At Home Or Wherever; And, I Also Feel This Way Because I Have Seen And Have Talked To Her, And I Have Seen Her How Reacting To Me.

As Some Of You Advised Me, I Will Not Ask Her Again Whether If She Has Changed Her Mind Or Not. Though, I Will Keep Eating There, And Sit Across The Room, And Stare At Her; Until Summer. If She Won't Come Up Me, Then I Will Move On, As, Again, Many Of You Consulted Me. How Does It Sound Guys??? ANYWAYS, THANKS FOR THE ADVICE GUYS!

[eightball61]

You dont have to change where you sit but you do have to change your thinking. Though if you dont like them staring at you then you will have to make a change or put up with it. She told you "no" and now her little group may be playing childish games....Trust me on this one but you dont need her.

[ronfq]

okay! got it

[ronfq]

I thank everyone for the effective advices.
so long guys!

[MissCheivious]

I didn't mean they were laughing at you when they were giggling. Girls do that. I would advise you not to stare at her but I'm fairly sure you mean that in a good way. ;) Just stay in her mind, if she's interested, that's enough. :)

[valueprep]

You must decide for yourself if this is the type of girl that interests you (shy). If it is, you must "take the bull by the horns". What I mean by this is take the initiative to let her know that you care about her and that some passing interest isn't what you are out for.

Furthermore, if you are able to generate some of the same feelings from her, you can and should slowly proceed with asking her to a movie or an afternoon in the park or whatever. The point is, get some time with her alone and away from a school environment (if you are in school & I assume you are), where you can cast a lot of quality attention onto her and then test her reciprocation.
You can see how that flies, and if it goes well which it should, you should be strolling down "broadway" together before you know it.

Take Care,
Brian Maloney,
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[Rich]

From the additional info that you provided, I would say that this girl has a crush on you too.

Go for it again.

Go up to her and say that you like her and want to go out with her. Tell her that you know that she has a boyfriend, but that if she likes you too, and you have the feeling that she does, then let's go out.

All's fair in love and war. Just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean that you can't pursue. Let her keep turning you down until she doesn't anymore. From what you write it seems like she's ready to crack anyway.

Any girl not married is fair game if you like them and want to pursue.

Go for it!

Go for it!

Go for it! :-)

Good luck.

Rich