peterpip
07-27-2009, 07:01 PM
So where to start...im 19 years old and have been dating this girl for almost 9 months now. Its a pretty serious relationship, she talks about how she always wants to be with me and never wants to be without me and i believe her.
My problem is being the jealous and worrysome type of guy i tend to overreact andd overthink things. I am absolutely in love with this girl and truly want to be with her forever, but sometimes i feel like even though she says it i cant picture her feeling the same way. ever since we have been going out i have been amazing to her and she doesnt treat me the same way i treat her and i know i would go so much farther than she would to make the relationship last.
Its so confusing, she tells me how much she loves me and i truly believe her but sometimes i feel like im just a temporary or along for the ride boyfriend. Throughout the whole relationship it seems like she would always pick her friends over me( example: we live a start apart in the summer because she goes to a college 30 minutes away from mine and i met her during the school year. but anyway an example is after not seeing each other for 2 weeks i went up to visit her for 4 days or so and the day and following day i got there she wanted to go hang out with one of her best friends instead of being with me...it always seems like she doesnt have the same desire to talk or to see me as i do with her.
i love talking on the phone and seeing her and i would never get bored of it, however, she gets mad and says that i try to control her life and only talk/see me and no one else and demand too much of her attention..which i dont get because even at school we see each other 1-2 a week. Also when we first started dating we would text each other ALL the time and have in depth conversations and we would talk on the phone for a long time, and now it seems like we only send the 6-10 texts which are the whats up, whats goin on, hows your day goin stuff.
She only texts me usually if i text her first which is really irritating also. Im also a worrysome/jealous type and it doesnt work at all because she is very pretty and it always seems like shes flirting with guys (im not the only one who notices it) she says its just her personality but it seems like shes really flirty..I know she would never cheat on me because her values and ex relationships and i know its not her to do that but it seems at times like she is/would. shes a huge partyer and sometimes gets wasted and im afraid some guy might take her the wrong way when shes drunk because shes a very outgoing girl and has a flirty personality.
One more thing is im going to be a sophmore and she is going to be a freshmen next year and our colleges are 30 minutes away. She cant/doesnt want to bring her car, so im going to so we can see each other. We had a conversation about next year and when we are going to be able to see each other and how much we were going to see each other and i was upset because i said i could drive down every weekend and we could switch off whose colelge we go to on the weekends and she said she doesnt want to see me every weekend because she wants to go out and meet new people. I dont know if i over reacted but it seems like she doesnt feel the same way that i feel about her. Sorry for such a super long post but im trying to get everything in there so i can get some solid advice! Thanks!!
My problem is being the jealous and worrysome type of guy i tend to overreact andd overthink things. I am absolutely in love with this girl and truly want to be with her forever, but sometimes i feel like even though she says it i cant picture her feeling the same way. ever since we have been going out i have been amazing to her and she doesnt treat me the same way i treat her and i know i would go so much farther than she would to make the relationship last.
Its so confusing, she tells me how much she loves me and i truly believe her but sometimes i feel like im just a temporary or along for the ride boyfriend. Throughout the whole relationship it seems like she would always pick her friends over me( example: we live a start apart in the summer because she goes to a college 30 minutes away from mine and i met her during the school year. but anyway an example is after not seeing each other for 2 weeks i went up to visit her for 4 days or so and the day and following day i got there she wanted to go hang out with one of her best friends instead of being with me...it always seems like she doesnt have the same desire to talk or to see me as i do with her.
i love talking on the phone and seeing her and i would never get bored of it, however, she gets mad and says that i try to control her life and only talk/see me and no one else and demand too much of her attention..which i dont get because even at school we see each other 1-2 a week. Also when we first started dating we would text each other ALL the time and have in depth conversations and we would talk on the phone for a long time, and now it seems like we only send the 6-10 texts which are the whats up, whats goin on, hows your day goin stuff.
She only texts me usually if i text her first which is really irritating also. Im also a worrysome/jealous type and it doesnt work at all because she is very pretty and it always seems like shes flirting with guys (im not the only one who notices it) she says its just her personality but it seems like shes really flirty..I know she would never cheat on me because her values and ex relationships and i know its not her to do that but it seems at times like she is/would. shes a huge partyer and sometimes gets wasted and im afraid some guy might take her the wrong way when shes drunk because shes a very outgoing girl and has a flirty personality.
One more thing is im going to be a sophmore and she is going to be a freshmen next year and our colleges are 30 minutes away. She cant/doesnt want to bring her car, so im going to so we can see each other. We had a conversation about next year and when we are going to be able to see each other and how much we were going to see each other and i was upset because i said i could drive down every weekend and we could switch off whose colelge we go to on the weekends and she said she doesnt want to see me every weekend because she wants to go out and meet new people. I dont know if i over reacted but it seems like she doesnt feel the same way that i feel about her. Sorry for such a super long post but im trying to get everything in there so i can get some solid advice! Thanks!!